SWEETHEART YOU GOT YOURSELF A HUGE REDFLAG
In the quiet of my morning, I have been accessing the last two weeks. What a ride! While I await for my outside gig's schedule to change and a new role to be created for me in another capacity; I am just hanging out looking and knowing things are about to change... AGAIN! "Change is the only thing we can count on." Besides it keeps life interesting!
I am taking down my fall art displays and changing up my painting classes to the Christmas theme. I am re-talking my vision board classes promoting mental health on another level and readdressing what green flags look like in a healthy relationship. Very many people have lived in such toxicity they have now allowed it to be second skin. Control and manipulation are at the forefront to gain power or status needing a hold over a person's life. Lower vibrational people need that power over another. They have this sense of entitlement to direct your autonomy under the influence of behavioral unhealthy patterns. Emotional hostage is never a good thing or is keeping one from growing into the life they were meant to have. Just because you cannot obtain the same structure or have the same ambition, it does not allow you to keep someone from their full potential!
Social media has changed drastically over the last 5 years since algorithms have stepped in and what we are now shown on our "For You Page" depends on where your interest lies. Whereas before it was a show and tell of our lives, algorithms dictate what we are privy to seeing! One of the topics discussed in my vision board class under the relationship part of the board is how we display our lives on social media what light we shine on our partners and the life we are living out loud for others to view. Adamantly, I profess, there is a huge difference between having a private life vs "pretending" what is seen on social media as to be happy and perfect. In that aspect, social media is to be enjoyed for expressing our opinions, family pictures, and the happiness we live through our relationships and or travels and or careers. If your partner, significant other...spouse so on and so forth are not sharing those things, It is a red flag and I will ask what is he/she hiding? Why would your significant other not want you to share those momentous moments within your life? Everyone on this planet loves a real-life love story!
Often times the one who exclaims, "Let's keep our life private" is the one who has a horrific past and or has done horrible things to people, and he doesn't want to be scrutinized for the poor choices or past aggressions; Or better yet, has disclosed untruths convincing their person to just block whomever... so the real truth is never exposed. Leaving the person they are with, in the dark.
Now the flip side to that would be the woman who gets involved with this person, who (she) knows the truth but refuses to believe what has been said or done. The naiveness and blindness to the reality if she blocks {this other person}what has been said, therefore it never happened, she can ignore and she can continue to pretend her new life is so happy within the confines of a private house of cards.
Here is an example; let us say, the person you are involved with has had trouble with the IRS and owes back taxes or maybe even payday loans. In the amount of $35000,00 or more and somewhere in his past, he has cheated on his long-time girlfriend who could not bail him out of financial ruin, so he cheats with someone who makes more money, has a steady paycheck, although she is far less desirable than the longtime girlfriend but this woman is willing to lock stock and barrel give up her home and bank account to bail him out with false promises as he is boasting/ claiming that the girlfriend was the problem to his plight because she could not "support" him... {whether that be emotionally mentally or financially}{of course all this is purely specualtion}
This then continues, the less desirable puts up with his drinking and his embarrassing behavior because in the beginning this was what they had in common but after several years, she loses her job and vehicle and She now is in debt for his mishaps. He has depleted her in every area and is no longer needed in any capacity...in his life.
So next steps in the new supply! He convinces her to move from another state (play the hero) while trying to get rid of the one in his house who he now has to pay off to get her out. Miraculously there was an inheritance so he now can ignore the owed financial responsibilities for his misfortune and the ruining of the last's finances. Reluctantly he pays her... to get rid of her and With this one gone and the next brought in with now a newfound bank account, he can boast how successful he is! "Look at what I have!" (she wouldn't know the difference she is from another state)
Of course, that situationship does not work out for various reasons because that life was lived not only on social media but in public out loud for anyone to see... between the cheating on both parts, the physical abuse, the alcoholism and addictions given to both, it would be understandable why the partner telling his newest supply "to keep their life private" and that no one does not need to know what is happening in their life! Of course, as she is selling off her home and personal belongings to accommodate her new life with him... in his home with any belongings he has confiscated from the 2 before her. She just feels so lucky she now has him because she does not know the truth! #shewasconned
I tell all of the women in my coaching enrichment classes in this vision board class that what is done in the dark always comes to light and what you choose to ignore eventually hits you smack in the face! You need to ask the real questions and do your homework about why your significant other would not be posting and showing you off on social media to the world because he is proud of who he has or what now happy life is he living! Men have a huge pride issue! and if he is not boasting and or defending you in real life... You do not have a real life! It is a facade!
The subject is always iffy and it truly makes women examine the motives of their person. Every woman on this planet wants their man to be bragging on her, showing her off, and shouting to the top of his lungs about her accomplishments! And if he is not... as a life coach I will tell you "SWEETHEART YOU GOT YOURSELF A HUGE REDFLAG" and if he is not allowing you to post your happy life... someone is living a lie and hiding something! Also if he has convinced you to block someone because he claims that person was the problem; he does not want you to see the truth!
This is a separate issue from someone who has disrespected you, crossed a line and overstepped a boundary and you no longer want to associate with that person. Blocking them states a very strong sentiment! Done, finished ... keep your distance from me! Especially when that person had the chance to participate in the relationship and chose not to because of attachment issues or if someone has made it a mission to not understand what you are going through. No one needs that type of energy in their life!
The psychology behind this enrichment class is eye-opening. Although it may just look like a cut and paste project with a bunch of words and images, there is a life-altering meaning behind it. How one maneuvers through life and their choices depends on how aware they are of all the flags represented in their life and what they choose to get involved with on a deeper level towards commitment and awareness!
No one wants to know they have been manipulated or played the class allows you to see the flags in your life, where you've been, and where you would like to see yourself go... through the truths available for you to live for your highest good and purpose!
Reach out kitryn_marie@yahoo.com to schedule! 65.00 ea private or group. St. Louis Mo
Kitryn Marie
