Your Morals and Ethics Should Be your Compass Not Your Costume
Maybe this Sunday morning has a different feel. IDK maybe it's because I have just settled into another type of calm. I worked until almost midnight, yielding enough in tips for groceries and a trip to the thrift store this week! I have been eyeing a recipe for wild rice and mushroom soup and pricing out turkeys for me and the kid. Yes, he and I are staying in this year. I have no desire to people along with it's "the dad's" year. A ridiculous tradition my daughter started for the holidays to separate whomever. Whatever... Nonetheless, there is cash on hand for the week! Praise Jesus! Cash and he is King... LOL #humor
Last night's event's an auction bid on for meals, drinks (open bar call), and an overnight stay; tickets for 40 people. These people were actually friends of 40+ years! The gentleman who outbid on this ticket shared his grand prize with his closest comrades. I can't imagine! In actuality only 29 attended and an array of husbands and wives, the winner's son, and a few 4 friends. The evening was as pleasant as you could imagine! A group of CBC 1977ish graduates mixed with a handful of college buds along with their wives! The drinks flowed. The stories told and I observed what 40+ years of real friendship looks like! (Somehow I missed that train.)
Although I am sure each of those couples had their share of "issues" they were beyond jovial! The wives sported some jewelry like I have never seen and one had a wedding ring that caught my eye every time she walked by. How do you miss 4 carats on a perfectly set of manicured nails! I shutter! It was gorgeous! One of those ladies I actually went to high school with! A gal through mutual classes we shared throughout a 4-year stint and mutual friends... we caught up the usual way. "HI, how are you? Do you talk to anyone from school? How many kids do you have? Grandkids? Did you do anything famous with your life?" A cute gal from school that other than age hadn't changed much! It was an evening of pleasantries and conversation with her the whole night! And no she did not do anything "famous" with her life. Her life was blessed with being a traditional wife staying at home and raising her two sons.
Throughout the night, other than the occasional slam down one beer and asking for another, most actually made small talk with me. Those always make wonderful segways into what I do or how did I get this gig? Of course, all the men stood at the bar and women congregated at one table. I was privy to the "dirt"! LOL, health issues, retirement plans, vacations had, high school glory stories, and the fishing conversation about crappies and cleaning them that you know I chimed in on! The men laughed and listened to my theory about just scale the damn fish, remove the bone and cook them with the skin on! YUM! Besides you lose too much of the meat when you remove the skin! ;) The women on the other hand asked, "So what area do you live in? How long have you done this? What else do you do? {loaded question} Do you like it? Do you have kids? " Ya know pleasantries. I am sure each is so sick of their husbands and the same old stories shared as one tries to up the others! IDK maybe that's how it's done, I would not know!
As I chose my words carefully... Yes, I have 3 children all pretty successful, let us say this, "they are workers" I continued with, "Well I work at a local craft brewery during the week and Sunday night combined with I do this on Sat nights and somewhere in between, I am trying to reboot an art and communication business. {deer in the headlight looks at this point} With those kinds of diamonds... no one understands THE HUSTLE! It is ok! Not many get it! In fact, it's basically why I do not mention it at all!
For 4hours I watched these 63+ year old people drink at their high school level! Not my place to make any judgment calls. (besides I am doing my job and I do it really well) They were having a great time! I did keep thinking though as it was approaching 8:30 shouldn't they be getting ready for bed? One guy even said, "I can't believe I am still awake" Jokingly, with trepidation I said, as I was laughing,,, you guys are old, shouldn't y'all be getting ready for bed? As the younger crowd downed 3 bottles of Titos and wondered where dinner was and when was it going to be served! Ah, the youth! I thought once these others eat... it would all be over! I was wrong! Some of the women retreated to their rooms while the old chums gathered their personal stash of liquor and headed outside around the fire pit... the music blared and the night came to an end! I laughed and thought OMG all the makings for a huge hangover tomorrow morning.
From what I gathered, this group gets together several times a year. A few of the guys play golf on a regular basis and some even travel together. Again I can't imagine. While most looked "well bred with a good family structure" I could pick out the bar type. It is easy to do. There is a difference in human habitat! and how they carry themselves!!
I don't care...what anyone says, you can distinguish between the better upbringing and the ones that have succumbed to tavern life! I preach you become the sum of 5! And if your 5 are tavern people who lack a moral compass, it stands out in a group that has more ethics than the library has books! Etiquette and education with a standard held high amongst their peers carry themselves differently! I wish I knew more of those types!
Your morals and ethics should be your compass and not your costume! It should carry you and your stance should stand out. Not because you're better than anyone but because YOU KNOW BETTER! That's an education most never get!
As I sit here finishing my coffee and reflecting on last night and what scene I will go into tonight...its apples and oranges trying to make my life fit into a small corner of the world; to just do and be better for my highest good, having a standard to which I choose to live, while making my compass guide accordingly to the way I see the direction I want to live! Surrounded by the same type of friends sharing the same values as I do!
You become the sum of your 5! You have to ask yourself, have you dumbed down to fit in or you are the smartest; Do you stay because you need to feel superior or do you lack the confidence to level up! And by chance if you are the smartest and the most educated... you need to find a better group to grow! Like, attracts alike!
Kitryn Marie
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It is why I studied psychology and life coaching!
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Kitryn Marie
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