Pretty In Pink... Perfect In Paisley!

In the last several weeks, I have been defining the end of the year 2018 results. The good, the bad, the indecisive and the guidelines I have set for "staying in your own lane!" With those boundaries in place, I am reminding myself the goal in mind what I need to achieve for me! I  clearly see my end result of where 2019 is going to take me. What is important here is to remind, I have set those boundaries for very good reasons! Everyone needs to take their own stance, stay in their own lane, define the terms that work for self... and keep self-occupied, again for good reasons! I am not responsible for someone's downtime nor am I responsible for keeping anyone entertained when I am not around. I will never go back to being responsible for how someone else feels. I am accountable for me and my responsibilities towards and for my part in all relationships but I will continue to do with what works best within the confines of the boundary I have set. What I am trying to achi

It is coming down to that time of year when I need to seriously look at how far I have come! This year of 2018 has been compared to 2008, 2011 and the worst of 2013. If there was a theme song to this year it would be "St. Elmo's Fire." This year besides some wonderful day trips and a fabulous vacation 2018 has borderlined insanity! I have never seen so many ups and downs, back and forths... 2 steps forward and 8 hops back! I might; maybe can see daylight with a tunnel I am ready to get out of! I am very ready to head completely in another direction. Oh, I will still coach my creative mindset types! I still will strive to speak on relationships goals. I will still make many references to what I had to go through to get me to this stage in my life. I will absolutely still write and call out all behavior as I see fit! I did not take all those classes and study to let awareness and intelligence fall by the wayside! I will also strive to make it to a bigger platform and spea

You can not undo what has already been done. You can not turn a blind eye to the things you choose to ignore and pretend it does not exist. You can not go through a new door until realizing the passage you chose before, left imprints that have not been forgotten and can be easily found. Turning a blind eye and having a deaf heart (leaving behind) does not yield you new rites to passage. Lesson's in life are repeated until learned. Everyone you meet either teaches you something or there is a lesson to be learned. It is not about what no longer serves you. This isn't about what coping skills you have developed to get you moving forward; so you don't have to deal with what has been caused or what someone has put you through or what you left behind: Those people thrive on drama, trauma, and chaos where ever they go. They will attract the same types over and over and over.  There will always be people who have a type and no matter how far that person may run or try to escape f

As I sit here this morning on this chilly Saturday Nov 24th, I prepare for the days ahead and for the new months that will follow. It is that season of expectations and hype. A season for love and joy; tinsle and sparkle. It is the time for magic and a time for miracles. It is also a time of year where so many people become depressed and a deep seated grief steps in. It is that time of year a person feels so alone and a heart breaks for what once was or worse what one has always wished for. Personally I wish they would stop with the Christmas car commercials! I don't know about you but most the people I know live paycheck to paycheck and car purchases are most likely not in the equation for the holiday. The families I know still are struggling with making ends meet and the emotional stress they put themselves through trying to buy the latest and greatest for their kids. I don't know a soul who gets matching vehicles on Christmas morning! Shame on the car industry for such a f

There are certain things that I have been known to get on my preaching box! Yes, I have been known to beat a dead horse until I get to the root of the cause.   A s I seek out every avenue until I find clarification on the matters I need to know! See those matters are important to me! Those matters have gravely affected my life and continue to do so! Those matters are close to my heart and are embedded in my soul. See there are soul contracts... things that have been written so far before you or I became familiar with: what it means to really have a soul. The physical world depends on living with heart but the transcendental being that has been put here on this earth at this time, for a purpose, their life depends on living with soul. Let me first say very loudly; Unfinished business... does not stop on this earth plane. Karma does follow from life to life until reckoned with so if some wrongdoing has been done in your current life and it has not been dealt with, I am here to say, i

In order to be your most authentic self, one has to get as real and raw as one can be with self! (Sounds like a simple statement right?) Setting the tone and looking at the view at hand and the view one has pictured in one's head and then clearly stating out loud the vision to be seen... The Big Picture one has planned. The big picture one has always had! It should be easy to see, recognize, what a person does not want. It is a process of elimination, mistakes, trial, and errors and boredom! It is the things that a person gets bored with because it no longer stimulates certain body parts, the mind or ignites the soul. The situation can no longer be manipulated to work in one's favor. If that person is not hearing what they want to hear or getting the response one feels they need, they will subject them self to Simple trades off's, cheap thrills and any high seeking entity that is quick to fix a situation hoping it will fill their gaping hole of EMPTY because they cannot b