Take What Resonates

 I have a few words to share! A few Kit-isms that most need to be aware of and learn from... things I have cultivated from that might help you to see a clearer view. Let me reiterate, I studied psychology and life coaching, between the years of 2014-2016. I found the topic interesting and specialized in certain subjects that I could relate to from situations I personally had experience with. I had already studied in college, communication, journalism, and theatre so the new form of learning new topics from scholar mentors allowed me to learn adding to what I already had prepared for; how to monetize their theories through art enrichment classes and content creation. {I am not responsible for how people feel or react in these matters} It is your accountability for yourself and what I generally say that should make you reflect on your own thoughts and behaviors. *side note people do not like change! Typically because the manipulation tactics they have developed to cope with their own actions no longer can be used...

*People only know you how they think they know you! When a person elevates, grows, or evolves into something else; if there have been deceptive lies or a smear campaign to dumb you down to make them feel better about their lives... they make things a competition where there is NONE. People get angry that what they have gossiped about and the truth is discovered eventually and their stories do not add up. Small and narrow-minded people do not like to see others gain success greater than theirs. Or adapt or mold into something other than how they once knew you. (be mindful how these humans twist and project onto the new you) Growth is powerful but if it is a false narrative old patterns and behaviors will surface! It is easy to resort back... because it's familiar!

*It's not a competition! You can't compete with things you can't compare to. The leverage is different and one's ability to see that difference depends on their own self-worth! God doesn't like ugly and the jealous ones who need to remain front and center, do not like when someone does better for themselves... so their heightened expressions of berating are seen loudly by their words of barking accusations and who they parade around with displaying "shows" of people places and things. {they equate who is to be seen with them. How does it make their image better?} If they have no pride in themselves they will choose lesser than who they are because 1. they don't have to be alone and 2. the lesser looks at them like they are everything; therefore that person uses that adoration and attention as leverage. The bargaining chip is made competition for whomever they are trying to compare to! (Ex: In relationships, let us say Willy Wank Skank has been seen around town for years with a variety of women. Each woman displays a lesser value than the last. Each of those bottom barrels has been used against the other; creating competition amongst each other. The irony, remembering his image matters. He has no pride but needs the attention! He has compared each to each, weaponizing the comparisons where in reality all couldn't hold a candle to each other because the standard of measure was worse than the last. There is a flip side to this. If by chance Willy Wank Skank ups his game still needing that attention or adoration he will not be able to keep up the pretenses. He will not be able to compete with himself because he has made his relationships a game... who can win and how can he look better! When in the end... regardless of who he has switched out... SOMEONE ALWAYS LEAVES! #setupforfailure #abandomentissues #mommycomplexes #payattentiontome When there is a competition it is set up like a game and in a game someone always wins! The show!!!! {confident people do not need to compare or set up childish competition behaviors}*Side note: typically the woman who is in Willy Wank Skanks' life usually isn't aware of her competing position... but if she listens close and in between the lines she will hear how so and so did this that or the other...making comparisons setting her up #gaslighting

*Just because this is what you know that does not mean this is all there is! This is a big one!!! The way people apply themselves in all actions on how they choose whether it be jobs, moves and relationships... even with money. Change requires effort and a course to do something other than how its always been done. "The in stone" b.s. because they need THE SAME and a sense of SECURITY because they never learned to adapt to all situations because they never DEVELOPED good coping skills. Their maladaptive ways have kept them in familiar. It is easy and they know the "routine" Also these types are afraid.(not willing to risk) They do not have good decision-making skills it is easy to conform and follow someone else's rule or authority. To do something else you have to work harder which most people are not willing to do! If it is easily familiar and someone else has set up the terms... why do anything different. Right? Ex: the guy that won't move from his apt because he locked into the landlords' easy terms. It has been like this for decades so now why change the situation. In order to better his living conditions that would require him to apply more money to better his surroundings. Or the person who has lived in the same house for decades because parental units gave the down payment and now its paid off. To move would require a new house payment and a new set of conditions that financially may add a burden to the way money is spent. When there has never been a real budget and or someone else has always maintained the way money is used... moving is too risky. Also, let me really throw this in... it would require 40 years of stuff accumulated to be gone through to liquidate, consolidate, and declutter their lives! Both are not equipped to mentally handle it! There fore what they have and or what they know as second skin will not be altered! It is easy and cheaper to stay put... and have someone move in! #revolvingdoor

2ndary to this is the way this person dates and looks at relationship patterns... how dare anyone choose differently or adhere to another lifestyle! #obsurd It would require another way to act and behave! The bigger question in this is if their current way of doing things is so great then why are they miserable with these choices? #lifecoaching There is more than one way to skin a cat but when you are not a risk taker and have already made really bad life choices... it is more than ok to do nothing other else than the same! {Someone once said to me, "Usually it is the woman who works and pays the household bills so the man can pay attention to his business and personal matters}{where someone else said, if I provide you won't have to"} #familiar Easy and the same and control is the pattern here! When you choose the same you get what you got! Stale stagnant and just YUK! Shame on you!

*It is a big world when you get off the only 2 streets you know! If you are still associating in the same dives and mingling with the same less-than-desirables because you are numbing and avoiding the consequences of your choice and wasting money because there is no value in your life, feeling like an escape needs to happen (so you can manage) because Furlow is all you know! #coward If your work environment leaves you being the smartest and the most knowledgeable and you can't escape stupidity because you are locked in stubbornness and you need to feel superior to the stupid, your choice of misery lives in victimhood. It is easy to complain about how bad things are instead of veering into another direction. Somewhere along in your life, you were made to feel you didn't deserve better and your application toward endeavors never mattered because you were made to feel you weren't enough so therefore you have settled into...you never saw your own worth! This also applies to anyone who relied on others to pay and pave the way for their employment efforts. When someone says, "hey I know a guy that can help you; ask that person why they didn't call that guy to help when they were going without instead of relying on the women in their life to bail them out of financial ruin? [We all need help at times! If you helped someone and you use it against them as a form of leverage or to keep the score so you have something to hold over their head... that is a narcissistic trait!] #heresyoursign #lookinthemirror

When you remove yourself from what you know... the expansion is huge! Clarity sets in and you no longer associate with the poison that has separated you from the men and "the boys" #clubs #bars #cityemployees #unionhalls Rules are set to keep you safe and not so you cannot think for yourself!

*You become the sum of your 5. This is on my mind also, now mind you I am in my 60's. I have spent a lifetime in the food and beverage industry. Events coordinating I have a heavy emphasis on. Other than doing my outside JOB and promoting the things that are occurring throughout the month not only for my business and my employer, I question the value and the integrity of older women who are still promoting bar bands. (It shows the quality of your activities) The sum of 5 and its associating factors does not say much about their character and higher levels of interest. #tavernpeople Or those that preach the word but still choose to live in the 3-D world of the matrix and its evil counterparts. I am educated differently and I have seen and lived both sides of that coin. I am not suggesting you go knit some socks but please look at the environment that is dumbing down and keeping you from a hobby or outside activity that is going to help you enhance your life for a higher form of enjoyment. 

My Kit-isms are not for everyone! With a very open mind and an awareness that is heightened, I have learned some pretty heavy lessons that I have applied to not only my life but how I teach my enrichment classes! In painting classes we talk about concepts and images, shaping the way you view the creative side of your life. I teach perception and perspective while moving the paints around. In my Vision Board class based on psychology and life coaching, I speak about being products of the environment and the family dynamics where you feel the influences shaped the way you live now. We discuss relationships, family and career, money, travel, and faith... It is an open discussion. You contribute what you want to share only! It is a cut-and-paste activity that allows you to see where the stagnancy resides in your life and where you would like to evolve/grow to so you can live a better existence while you are here in this space in this lot of your life!

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You will over a period of conversations hear me speak about the above! sometimes these messages need to be repeated. I am here to inspire, entertain and educate! You take what resonates with you... leave what doesn't apply and feel free to insert what you need to work on to allow you to be a better person!

Fate Turns On a Dime!

Kitryn Marie

#lifecoaching