The Healings of January and February
While I am still in the process of finding my speaking voice, for my lives and my YOUTUBE channel, I still have the many words that are filtering through my mind for web content. My plan was, for speaking, to take off til Jan 15th but as it looks it may take a bit longer. There is quite the gift in remaining silent and the ability to go unnoticed. Right now it physically hurts to talk to people. My brain makes this high pitch decibel sound that rattles my core. The public at large is getting worse and a few that have been in my circle... block, delete and what's your name? Trust me this vow of silence is doing everyone a world of good!
January and February, in general, can be such a healing time. The refocusing on health and getting rid of some holiday unmerited weight. The balancing of finances and seeing exactly where you are at and what you can cut back on for this new year in order to save. Its a reorganizing of "home" closets, drawers, tools, and crafts spaces; To declutter... well it's almost a breath of fresh air. To slow yourself down and finish a project you started in Sept of last year. To learn a new recipe or a new way of doing something, to research and learn something that you did not know before... To start a new book and read front to back in record time with no distractions. Being able to bundle up and go for a walk ... clear out your sinus' from dusty forced heat and take in how nature survives this time of year. Yes, I love January and February! I love my peace!!!
I recently broke out my sewing machine and created some dog scarf and coat patterns. Butcher and parchment paper are great for designing your own patterns. With having a slew of pets, they will make great models for my photography business! Which by the way, I have a few new things on that horizon. This month has been the beginning of some new collaborations with a few new entities because I strive for fresh ideas that are going to stimulate creative flow. Although my intention was to start a class, it's just on hold for these next 2 mos. No pressure, I'm existing inflow. If I feel like it, I will do it. If it doesn't feel right then I will not! There is a NO WELCOME porch covering at my front door...DO NOT DISTURB! Other than the fluctuating of muddy paw prints, (ugh) I'm spiritually cleaning and throwing out what no longer serves... MAKES MY SOUL SING!
The emails are coming in often and more from women, which truly makes me happy! Their biggest misconception has been the placement of guilt... "what do I do with and how am I supposed to handle this?"
First of all, if someone hurt you, they do not get to say they did not. (There are though degrees of that hurt) It all goes back to being accountable for actions of self and knowing your role in that placement. You owe no obligatory of feelings if the feelings have diminished and have outrun its course. There is a shelf life for everything. As for money and gifts and an acquired lifestyle that took place, both should be extremely happy that each was able to EXPERIENCE whatever took place in that duration. Often times the one complaining about how much they gave and did and spent etc... need to take into consideration of it was not for _____________ (fill in your own blank) that experience may have never of happened. People get rigid and stuck and like their own form of misery so when EXPERIENCE HAPPENS they need to stop and think... "ID NEVER WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO SHARE THOSE THINGS, MOMENTS, PLACES, OPPORTUNITIES ...if it was not for. (without holding ANYTHING over anyone's head) Free will! No one holds a weapon to anyone's head making them do anything... point blank the end. Gratitude and appreciation often are silent and although moments, places, things, and opportunities took place; the joy at the time should be enough without the... BUT I DID THAT FOR YOU! And then all the mental notes that start getting taken and then there is a re-counting of all activities. That person needs to seriously stop and ask themselves DID I DO THIS REALLY FOR THEM OR DID I DO THIS FOR THEM SO I COULD GET THE CREDIT FOR...?" Narcissism takes on the unrecognized roles leaving the biggest of impacts. If you have to keep score for what you did... shame on you!
In regards to heart-ache or grief, I do not take kindly to people who speak out of both sides of their mouth or forget what they told you during an event than they have the audacity to recite a completely different version of what was originally said. ( SO HERE I ASK) So which story was it? It creates doubt and takes away all credibility to the person who is now garbling some version of a story that never took place. {Be really careful... on this because I promise you KARMA is watching closely.} This will come back and bite you in the ass!
Also, the holidays and the aftermath is a clear recognition of heart-empty and the let down for what version of the person has in their head and how it never compares to the idea in their mind. This is no one's fault... if there was no intentional play at hand. Depression is real. The holidays are hard. Every emotion on some scale gets triggered. If you are already dealing with any version of unhappy this only escalates a feeling.
I remind everyone NO ONE CAN TELL YOU HOW TO COPE! NO ONE GETS TO TELL YOU WHICH VERSION OF LIFE YOU NEED TO LIVE! NO ONE GETS TO TELL YOU, GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON! AND ABSOLUTELY HANDS DOWN NO ONE GETS TO THROW GOD AWFUL INUENDOS AT YOU IN THEIR DEFENSE OF THE SITUATION...because they are grasping at straws out of personal frustrations.
Some people will do anything and everything to make you feel guilty in order to have a sense of POWER. Remember that too!
[This is a broad generalized statement] I do not negotiate with terrorists. I also will not placate to people who want to feel sorry for themselves because they are stuck in mindset and want to continue to blame everyone else for their downfalls in life. Anger spews from love that has gone wrong. The hatred of words that come out of people's mouths for reasons of trying to manipulate another's actions... because they can not control the situation, is a flaw in character. A serious one at that! People not only need to grow up but they need to access that feeling of hate and look within for their own actions that caused a situation to occur. It gets old to be blamed for things that have absolutely nothing to do with the person that is being berated.
In all relationships, there was somebody before you and odds are there is going to be someone after you! Relationships are often and more than most often lop-sided and the idea of forever is outdated. People have learned to be happy with themself and it is dangerous for the ones that think... THEY CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT ME... or worse the ones that ARE COMPLETELY HAPPY ON THEIR OWN who no longer will put up anything than less of what feels right to themself. A meme I just saw about Cinderella (my girl!) the prince says, " Its midnight you can't leave!" Cinderella turns around and very adamantly and sternly says, " Look buddy I'll tell you right now, I'LL DO WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT!" It has taken me a long time to appreciate this.
There is peace in the contents of January and February. There is something to be said for healing and soul seeking what is needed for this year in the making. You do not need to share every detail of your personal life with people who still want to give you advice [and they have done nothing with theirs] The number of energy vampires needs to stop and stop seeking the breath out of those that no longer have anything to say. If you want to be unhealthy and blame your illness or malady on your chaotic life or lifestyle... do it in the confines of your own silence. Pay attention to your own personal habits and what you are doing within the walls of your own home that is contributing to BLAME, PITY, GRIEF, GUILT AND MISERY.
So as I sit here and drink my bullet-proof coffee and slather my coconut oil over a dry and drained body, I am going to finish this writing out and then head back to the sewing machine... that glorious machine that gives me peace in knowing... I CREATE THE LIFE I WANT... NO ONE GETS TO INTRUDE OR TELL ME DIFFERENT AND THEY NEED TO STAY IN THEIR OWN LANE AND TEND TO THEIR OWN VICES AND HOW THEY OPERATE THEIR MOTIVES!
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
#writer #happilyatpeace #buildingmyempire
January and February, in general, can be such a healing time. The refocusing on health and getting rid of some holiday unmerited weight. The balancing of finances and seeing exactly where you are at and what you can cut back on for this new year in order to save. Its a reorganizing of "home" closets, drawers, tools, and crafts spaces; To declutter... well it's almost a breath of fresh air. To slow yourself down and finish a project you started in Sept of last year. To learn a new recipe or a new way of doing something, to research and learn something that you did not know before... To start a new book and read front to back in record time with no distractions. Being able to bundle up and go for a walk ... clear out your sinus' from dusty forced heat and take in how nature survives this time of year. Yes, I love January and February! I love my peace!!!
I recently broke out my sewing machine and created some dog scarf and coat patterns. Butcher and parchment paper are great for designing your own patterns. With having a slew of pets, they will make great models for my photography business! Which by the way, I have a few new things on that horizon. This month has been the beginning of some new collaborations with a few new entities because I strive for fresh ideas that are going to stimulate creative flow. Although my intention was to start a class, it's just on hold for these next 2 mos. No pressure, I'm existing inflow. If I feel like it, I will do it. If it doesn't feel right then I will not! There is a NO WELCOME porch covering at my front door...DO NOT DISTURB! Other than the fluctuating of muddy paw prints, (ugh) I'm spiritually cleaning and throwing out what no longer serves... MAKES MY SOUL SING!
The emails are coming in often and more from women, which truly makes me happy! Their biggest misconception has been the placement of guilt... "what do I do with and how am I supposed to handle this?"
First of all, if someone hurt you, they do not get to say they did not. (There are though degrees of that hurt) It all goes back to being accountable for actions of self and knowing your role in that placement. You owe no obligatory of feelings if the feelings have diminished and have outrun its course. There is a shelf life for everything. As for money and gifts and an acquired lifestyle that took place, both should be extremely happy that each was able to EXPERIENCE whatever took place in that duration. Often times the one complaining about how much they gave and did and spent etc... need to take into consideration of it was not for _____________ (fill in your own blank) that experience may have never of happened. People get rigid and stuck and like their own form of misery so when EXPERIENCE HAPPENS they need to stop and think... "ID NEVER WOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO SHARE THOSE THINGS, MOMENTS, PLACES, OPPORTUNITIES ...if it was not for. (without holding ANYTHING over anyone's head) Free will! No one holds a weapon to anyone's head making them do anything... point blank the end. Gratitude and appreciation often are silent and although moments, places, things, and opportunities took place; the joy at the time should be enough without the... BUT I DID THAT FOR YOU! And then all the mental notes that start getting taken and then there is a re-counting of all activities. That person needs to seriously stop and ask themselves DID I DO THIS REALLY FOR THEM OR DID I DO THIS FOR THEM SO I COULD GET THE CREDIT FOR...?" Narcissism takes on the unrecognized roles leaving the biggest of impacts. If you have to keep score for what you did... shame on you!
In regards to heart-ache or grief, I do not take kindly to people who speak out of both sides of their mouth or forget what they told you during an event than they have the audacity to recite a completely different version of what was originally said. ( SO HERE I ASK) So which story was it? It creates doubt and takes away all credibility to the person who is now garbling some version of a story that never took place. {Be really careful... on this because I promise you KARMA is watching closely.} This will come back and bite you in the ass!
Also, the holidays and the aftermath is a clear recognition of heart-empty and the let down for what version of the person has in their head and how it never compares to the idea in their mind. This is no one's fault... if there was no intentional play at hand. Depression is real. The holidays are hard. Every emotion on some scale gets triggered. If you are already dealing with any version of unhappy this only escalates a feeling.
I remind everyone NO ONE CAN TELL YOU HOW TO COPE! NO ONE GETS TO TELL YOU WHICH VERSION OF LIFE YOU NEED TO LIVE! NO ONE GETS TO TELL YOU, GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON! AND ABSOLUTELY HANDS DOWN NO ONE GETS TO THROW GOD AWFUL INUENDOS AT YOU IN THEIR DEFENSE OF THE SITUATION...because they are grasping at straws out of personal frustrations.
Some people will do anything and everything to make you feel guilty in order to have a sense of POWER. Remember that too!
[This is a broad generalized statement] I do not negotiate with terrorists. I also will not placate to people who want to feel sorry for themselves because they are stuck in mindset and want to continue to blame everyone else for their downfalls in life. Anger spews from love that has gone wrong. The hatred of words that come out of people's mouths for reasons of trying to manipulate another's actions... because they can not control the situation, is a flaw in character. A serious one at that! People not only need to grow up but they need to access that feeling of hate and look within for their own actions that caused a situation to occur. It gets old to be blamed for things that have absolutely nothing to do with the person that is being berated.
In all relationships, there was somebody before you and odds are there is going to be someone after you! Relationships are often and more than most often lop-sided and the idea of forever is outdated. People have learned to be happy with themself and it is dangerous for the ones that think... THEY CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT ME... or worse the ones that ARE COMPLETELY HAPPY ON THEIR OWN who no longer will put up anything than less of what feels right to themself. A meme I just saw about Cinderella (my girl!) the prince says, " Its midnight you can't leave!" Cinderella turns around and very adamantly and sternly says, " Look buddy I'll tell you right now, I'LL DO WHATEVER THE FUCK I WANT!" It has taken me a long time to appreciate this.
There is peace in the contents of January and February. There is something to be said for healing and soul seeking what is needed for this year in the making. You do not need to share every detail of your personal life with people who still want to give you advice [and they have done nothing with theirs] The number of energy vampires needs to stop and stop seeking the breath out of those that no longer have anything to say. If you want to be unhealthy and blame your illness or malady on your chaotic life or lifestyle... do it in the confines of your own silence. Pay attention to your own personal habits and what you are doing within the walls of your own home that is contributing to BLAME, PITY, GRIEF, GUILT AND MISERY.
So as I sit here and drink my bullet-proof coffee and slather my coconut oil over a dry and drained body, I am going to finish this writing out and then head back to the sewing machine... that glorious machine that gives me peace in knowing... I CREATE THE LIFE I WANT... NO ONE GETS TO INTRUDE OR TELL ME DIFFERENT AND THEY NEED TO STAY IN THEIR OWN LANE AND TEND TO THEIR OWN VICES AND HOW THEY OPERATE THEIR MOTIVES!
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
#writer #happilyatpeace #buildingmyempire
