The Environment In Which Has Made You Sick, Cynical, Self-righteous or Judgemental
You can not heal in the environment in which has made you sick, cynical, self-righteous or judgemental. You can not be self-serving, thinking you are doing yourself justice if you are despising the people and the task you are assigned to deal with. You can not complain about what you are paid to do if that weekly paycheck is something you are living for and you certainly can not expect everyone to understand your motives if you are on the sidelines observing all actions that are taking place in silence still but yet doing nothing to change that environment in which has made you sick.
Self-care will look so selfish to anyone who is trying to impose their way of thinking, living, acting and breathing for that matter if it does not coincide with their personal agenda at the time of (sharing s-p-a-c-e.) In order to heal from any toxic situation, one just has to stop participating, stop playing along and stop trying to keep themself in a situation, place, spot, position that will not allow you to evolve, awaken and OUT grow what you already know. There is a virtue in being selfish for the sake of self-care. If you are waiting on a person to buy your way out, give you permission to leave or harmfully give you a one-way ticket to __________________! [Here is your sign} A lifetime of excuses will drain the energy from anyone that is in that s-p-a-c-e listening and hearing the same worn-out song and dance that has been played over and over and over. (honestly verbatim that person who has heard the same story can recite it better than you!)
Sometimes a person just has to go off on their own winging it with no plan in mind just to find a sense of order again so mental and emotional balance can be restored. You can't be everything to everybody and people need to understand their role and how the result of that role took a toll on the well being of the other. Love is not supposed to drain you and deplete your self to the point of exhaustion.
Winging it, doing things solo, allows you to see what you like, enjoy and can find humor in without another person injecting or infringing on...
It is terribly difficult for a person who has spent a lifetime of taking care of themselves doing things in a fashion that suits their well being and mental clarity to have someone come along and suddenly want to do everything for them! The balance has been disrupted. The space has been altered and the oxygen has been depleted... leaving the other person gasping for...time on their own alone!
This is an ongoing contingent situation for many women who are accused of being selfish because of the way they have needed to do things. This practice took years for them to develop; strategy skills in surviving to become self-reliant. In this day and age, it is an archaic idea for a man to RESCUE a woman and it is pathetically appalling for a woman to feel she needs to be rescued... but yet woman or man will stay stuck in an environment that is making them sick. mentally emotionally and physically!
Cutting people off and out, leaving your self to your own devices may seem like a lonely task or a lonely way of existence but I promise you once you are away from the situation long enough and you realize what you endured or what you had to put up with... you will be darn toot'n and very well aware of the trigger "cues" that will never put you in that situation again.
In order to value a person's contributions in all areas of any relationship, they need to be wanted and merited with more value than the alone space that you have dwelled in prior too. It is a hard line-driven when the person on the other end is a giver and although gestures are made with great intention... codependency in that form becomes obvious because their devotion has become solely based on you and not themself. That person will have lost himself forgetting about his own needs obsessing about what he or she can do to prove and make a way to stay in that person's heart. I've repeatedly said, "just because a person makes a situation easy, that does not make it right". On the other hand, A taker will take without ever batting an eye on any gift... they are only it for themself. They are self-serving at the expense of the other! A genuine person with no motive will recognize the gestures and will realize how the person is giving...by doing the right thing, they will immediately stop it and cut it off with no warning. This sudden halt will make it look they are ungrateful which is never the case. They just see the person losing themself for the sake of love.
I find it so ironic how someone will stay in an environment that is not meant for their highest good but yet they will continue to find reasons and make excuses for not changing situations that they have allowed themselves to fall prey too.
It takes great risk with unnerving bravery to leave a situation whether it be romantic or a working relationship with no plan ahead. People should not be so co-dependent on those relationships and if they practiced life with always having the abilities to create better options... towards a better way of existing; these people would not get themselves stuck in things obviously not meant for them! If people could departmentalize their life as if drawing up a blueprint. Bordering off rooms for growth, spiritually, mentally, physically, romantically and environmentally, they would not walk around with unnecessary baggage. These unnecessary incidentals are not needed for their highest form of self. These mental rooms hold what is necessary to carry with them through life offering ingenuity and insight for all the wonderful capabilities where they can serve best in a workplace and or in a romantic situation.
I have found over the last 6 years of my life by creating and teaching how to put together a vision board ( my personal blueprint) with writing experiments not only has helped me to see where I want to BELONG but where I am better to serve... my students and clients and customers are amazed at how this process works. The process though only works if you are ready and willing to understand where you are and how you currently are participating in your sickly environment.
It has been at times, quite the eye-opener in seeing my own selfish-ness (self-caring) way of doing things. I have been accused of being narcissistic, judgemental and even self-righteous. Which I admit throughout these past 10 years of life, put yourself in my shoes and study what I have come to know as second skin, I am none of the 3! I also know what I will participate in and I know which battles I will refuse to acknowledge. If you say 3+ 2 is 8! Great carry on... but please do not expect me to participate in your foolish nonsense. This is the thing, once you recognize where your strong points are and what you need to take care of you...you will walk away from the mass clown-age that has funneled into your life.
You can not heal in the same environment that has made you sick! It is not possible!
If you would like to learn more about any of my classes or coaching sessions please visit https://kitryn-marie.weebly.com If you have any questions that you need to be answered for business coaching or personal mentoring; it is 15.00 a question up to 4 questions per email; payment is to be made Paypal.me/kitrynmarie then email kitrynmarie@gmail.com your questions. Once I receive payment and your email I will acknowledge in a timely manner.
If you are in the St. Louis mo area and are needing a private session for any of my coachings (which include a vision board...your personal blueprint for life) it is 90.00 for 2 hours. If you prefer an online session it is 55.00 for 1 hr. via video chat.
Be Happy Be Blessed...
Kitryn Marie
Self-care will look so selfish to anyone who is trying to impose their way of thinking, living, acting and breathing for that matter if it does not coincide with their personal agenda at the time of (sharing s-p-a-c-e.) In order to heal from any toxic situation, one just has to stop participating, stop playing along and stop trying to keep themself in a situation, place, spot, position that will not allow you to evolve, awaken and OUT grow what you already know. There is a virtue in being selfish for the sake of self-care. If you are waiting on a person to buy your way out, give you permission to leave or harmfully give you a one-way ticket to __________________! [Here is your sign} A lifetime of excuses will drain the energy from anyone that is in that s-p-a-c-e listening and hearing the same worn-out song and dance that has been played over and over and over. (honestly verbatim that person who has heard the same story can recite it better than you!)
Sometimes a person just has to go off on their own winging it with no plan in mind just to find a sense of order again so mental and emotional balance can be restored. You can't be everything to everybody and people need to understand their role and how the result of that role took a toll on the well being of the other. Love is not supposed to drain you and deplete your self to the point of exhaustion.
Winging it, doing things solo, allows you to see what you like, enjoy and can find humor in without another person injecting or infringing on...
It is terribly difficult for a person who has spent a lifetime of taking care of themselves doing things in a fashion that suits their well being and mental clarity to have someone come along and suddenly want to do everything for them! The balance has been disrupted. The space has been altered and the oxygen has been depleted... leaving the other person gasping for...time on their own alone!
This is an ongoing contingent situation for many women who are accused of being selfish because of the way they have needed to do things. This practice took years for them to develop; strategy skills in surviving to become self-reliant. In this day and age, it is an archaic idea for a man to RESCUE a woman and it is pathetically appalling for a woman to feel she needs to be rescued... but yet woman or man will stay stuck in an environment that is making them sick. mentally emotionally and physically!
Cutting people off and out, leaving your self to your own devices may seem like a lonely task or a lonely way of existence but I promise you once you are away from the situation long enough and you realize what you endured or what you had to put up with... you will be darn toot'n and very well aware of the trigger "cues" that will never put you in that situation again.
In order to value a person's contributions in all areas of any relationship, they need to be wanted and merited with more value than the alone space that you have dwelled in prior too. It is a hard line-driven when the person on the other end is a giver and although gestures are made with great intention... codependency in that form becomes obvious because their devotion has become solely based on you and not themself. That person will have lost himself forgetting about his own needs obsessing about what he or she can do to prove and make a way to stay in that person's heart. I've repeatedly said, "just because a person makes a situation easy, that does not make it right". On the other hand, A taker will take without ever batting an eye on any gift... they are only it for themself. They are self-serving at the expense of the other! A genuine person with no motive will recognize the gestures and will realize how the person is giving...by doing the right thing, they will immediately stop it and cut it off with no warning. This sudden halt will make it look they are ungrateful which is never the case. They just see the person losing themself for the sake of love.
I find it so ironic how someone will stay in an environment that is not meant for their highest good but yet they will continue to find reasons and make excuses for not changing situations that they have allowed themselves to fall prey too.
It takes great risk with unnerving bravery to leave a situation whether it be romantic or a working relationship with no plan ahead. People should not be so co-dependent on those relationships and if they practiced life with always having the abilities to create better options... towards a better way of existing; these people would not get themselves stuck in things obviously not meant for them! If people could departmentalize their life as if drawing up a blueprint. Bordering off rooms for growth, spiritually, mentally, physically, romantically and environmentally, they would not walk around with unnecessary baggage. These unnecessary incidentals are not needed for their highest form of self. These mental rooms hold what is necessary to carry with them through life offering ingenuity and insight for all the wonderful capabilities where they can serve best in a workplace and or in a romantic situation.
I have found over the last 6 years of my life by creating and teaching how to put together a vision board ( my personal blueprint) with writing experiments not only has helped me to see where I want to BELONG but where I am better to serve... my students and clients and customers are amazed at how this process works. The process though only works if you are ready and willing to understand where you are and how you currently are participating in your sickly environment.
It has been at times, quite the eye-opener in seeing my own selfish-ness (self-caring) way of doing things. I have been accused of being narcissistic, judgemental and even self-righteous. Which I admit throughout these past 10 years of life, put yourself in my shoes and study what I have come to know as second skin, I am none of the 3! I also know what I will participate in and I know which battles I will refuse to acknowledge. If you say 3+ 2 is 8! Great carry on... but please do not expect me to participate in your foolish nonsense. This is the thing, once you recognize where your strong points are and what you need to take care of you...you will walk away from the mass clown-age that has funneled into your life.
You can not heal in the same environment that has made you sick! It is not possible!
If you would like to learn more about any of my classes or coaching sessions please visit https://kitryn-marie.weebly.com If you have any questions that you need to be answered for business coaching or personal mentoring; it is 15.00 a question up to 4 questions per email; payment is to be made Paypal.me/kitrynmarie then email kitrynmarie@gmail.com your questions. Once I receive payment and your email I will acknowledge in a timely manner.
If you are in the St. Louis mo area and are needing a private session for any of my coachings (which include a vision board...your personal blueprint for life) it is 90.00 for 2 hours. If you prefer an online session it is 55.00 for 1 hr. via video chat.
Be Happy Be Blessed...
Kitryn Marie
