I Have Been Taught...
As I am slowly at a snail's pace and a turtle's crawl making my way back to some sort of work order, I 've been going through school notes and combing through a few random emails from people. I have been taught to pick apart sentences and read between the lines and be in tune with what I feel is real and what the person is not saying to convey all truths. The human mind will make up so many versions of the truth to compensate for behavior so it will come out like a truth when in fact it has been fabricated in the worst way. It's not so much that others will believe but if they tell a version that sounds so convincing to themself... they know for sure someone else will buy what's been said. A lie told like a truth is still a lie no matter which verbiage is used.
I have been trained to pick apart the stories and use what I know not as a weapon or not as revenge [as if to throw someone under the bus] nor to use their misfortunes or maladies against them but to talk the story in reverse and pick apart details about behavior proving actions that should not have occurred and how those actions truthfully hurt someone. What if everyone you know and loved you to the fullest extent showed you your flaws and spoke about hurtful events so you could honestly see wherein this life you went terribly wrong? What if you listened without a critical ear, did not take it personally and stepped outside of your self to see from someone else's point of view, how those actions were so manipulative out of frustration, anger, hurt, or fear... When a person feels personally attacked they will lash out using the most outlandish of words and they will lie to justify the situation so they can feel better about what has happened ... Admissions of honesty and words from the heart often result in guilt. Guilt is one action most can never face because they truly know just how devastating their behavior was and they have a hard time facing themself over the truth.
It is never fair to use someone for their good nature or to try and get some article of...out of them and then turn around and use it against the person for not having enough. It is not fair to take advantage of someone who has little to nothing but yet is willing to share whatever small amount they have without needing to hear the repercussions attached to not doing enough to rectify not having enough to give. (You might need to read that a few times so you understand what I am saying!)
I have always and I mean always lived a frugal minimal lifestyle. I may dream big. I may talk loud but I am not attached to the almighty dollar. Nor am I attached to chasing a paycheck either. Money does not define the way I choose to live. What money I make; I make it work or at least I try to! I have never expected anyone to pay my way through this life or to support me (and if you really knew the personal details of my life for the last 2 years that statement has created the biggest of confrontational discussions) I can't be kept or I can't be bought. Those 2 statements have been very misconstrued by a public opinion because a version of someone's truth was the biggest lie. How I choose (or have chosen) to share my life with someone is out of heart generosity; Creating a home life with great meals, deep conversations with intimate passionate moments. Combining that life with someone who has their life together built on character and integrity not a derailed trainwreck with no direction in sight blaming whoever for their misguided mishaps in life always looking for the next chase!
People who are looking to get some kind of validation will make up god terrible stories to filter out to anyone who will listen because they need to justify why they have acted the way that they have. If people can not get their way... manipulate and control the situation they will go onto the next person waiting (that person has set up a stream of... "what can I get out of them" to supply me) This is an addict, narcissist, and only child syndrome. What is in it for me? How can I get attention from you? and or anything else that suits my needs at the time. These are individuals that are always looking for the next take.
This applies to women also who think, well I could not get this from so and so ... so now I am going to "hook" up with him because he has promised me... and this ring on my hand proves... and he will provide ... because I need to be taken care of... BECAUSE THAT SHOWS HE LOVES ME. Odds are... she has made a lifetime of poor choices falling for the same types over and over and over. {if you do not believe me do a little fact-checking on case net!}
My point in this content is... people need to be aware of how professionals can pick apart all stories. The who, the what, the where, and how... it usually does not add up to the WHY?
I will share this from a personal situation I was in. In 2008 when the world was turning upside down people were losing jobs, houses, and cars. The economic crash did more damage to relationships than it did to the stock market. I was doing everything in my power to find another job. My unemployment checks were going to my household bills, car payment, and my mortgage the best way I could stretch 320.00 a week. Big finance was holding payments letting them roll on to the next month so it looked like people were in default of or breach of... when that was not the case AT ALL. I made my payments... Big finance knew the game. They knew that if they could hold 3 mos of payment automatically it would go into collections and repossessions. Luckily I was able to save my home. I battled with Wells Fargo but yet they came and took my car although I had ALL THE PROOF I had made my payments. I also at the time was receiving food stamps that were feeding a family of 5. I was using what I had to feed and care for the guy I was involved with and his children. Although those food stamps were held over my head... it never stopped them from eating.
I was without my car for some weeks before he handed me the money to get my car back. Now at that time, I was told, "I took this out of my daughter's bank account, make sure you thank her!" Which I did. That same night I called her and thanked her profusely. A little confused, she said, " oh... ok no problem. I'm glad I could help. You know I love you." I responded back the same. As years progressed that kind gesture was held over my head... "but I did that for you!" "Do you know what I had to go thru?" Then in an email, as lies were being spewed paragraph after paragraph double talk out of both sides of his mouth... He claims, " It took me forever to pay that back! I had to take out a pay loan!!!" The funny thing about that was... he was taking out pay loans for all his personal and business obligations. His workflow slow to none! But yet my fault, not enough to give or hand out... As we stood in my kitchen arguing about who was responsible for buying his children's shoes. His kids who I took places, bought them clothes, birthday cakes, gifts etc... but yet did I know what he had to go through? Baffles my mind. Does he realize what I went through? Does he realize the agonizing pain he personally put me through?
I have been trained to pick apart all stories! I have been trained to see 2 sides and find resolve in the lie. I have been taught to pick apart sentences and read between the lines and be in tune with what I feel is real and what the person is not saying to convey all truths. The human mind will make up so many versions of the truth to compensate for behavior so it will come out like a truth when in fact it has been fabricated in the worst way. It's not so much that others will believe but if they tell a version that sounds so convincing to themself... they know for sure someone else will buy what's been said. A lie told like a truth is still a lie no matter which verbiage is used.
My customers, clients, and students know that when they come to me I can spot identify facts. I boldly show them what could have been done different and sadly where "that person" went so wrong. It is proven fact, textbook example, people do not change. Their behavior is shared the same with each person after until they realize the actions that caused the damage to the relationship. Past behaviors unequivocally hands-down show up in present relationships creating havoc for all future relationships. In order for real change to occur the truth needs to be admitted and the guilt associated with needs to be reckoned with so the person can adapt to a loving emotionally and physically healthier environment. A person has to come to terms with how the behavioral effects made towards their partner at the time and lingering residual resentment that will stay present.
If you would like more information on my life or biz coaching classes please visit https://kitryn-marie.weebly.com
I am taking personal mentoring questions via email up to 4 per email at 15.00 per question payment is to be made Paypal.me/kitrynmarie then send your questions kitrynmarie@gmail.com
I look forward to seeing you in one of my classes or hearing from you! Please also note for 2020 I am teaching "How to Write Your Story" Book or journal writing and blogging... autobiography or fictional for publishing. The series is 5 classes @ 90.00 each and receive the 6th one for free. You must live in the St. Louis mo area.
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
I have been trained to pick apart the stories and use what I know not as a weapon or not as revenge [as if to throw someone under the bus] nor to use their misfortunes or maladies against them but to talk the story in reverse and pick apart details about behavior proving actions that should not have occurred and how those actions truthfully hurt someone. What if everyone you know and loved you to the fullest extent showed you your flaws and spoke about hurtful events so you could honestly see wherein this life you went terribly wrong? What if you listened without a critical ear, did not take it personally and stepped outside of your self to see from someone else's point of view, how those actions were so manipulative out of frustration, anger, hurt, or fear... When a person feels personally attacked they will lash out using the most outlandish of words and they will lie to justify the situation so they can feel better about what has happened ... Admissions of honesty and words from the heart often result in guilt. Guilt is one action most can never face because they truly know just how devastating their behavior was and they have a hard time facing themself over the truth.
It is never fair to use someone for their good nature or to try and get some article of...out of them and then turn around and use it against the person for not having enough. It is not fair to take advantage of someone who has little to nothing but yet is willing to share whatever small amount they have without needing to hear the repercussions attached to not doing enough to rectify not having enough to give. (You might need to read that a few times so you understand what I am saying!)
I have always and I mean always lived a frugal minimal lifestyle. I may dream big. I may talk loud but I am not attached to the almighty dollar. Nor am I attached to chasing a paycheck either. Money does not define the way I choose to live. What money I make; I make it work or at least I try to! I have never expected anyone to pay my way through this life or to support me (and if you really knew the personal details of my life for the last 2 years that statement has created the biggest of confrontational discussions) I can't be kept or I can't be bought. Those 2 statements have been very misconstrued by a public opinion because a version of someone's truth was the biggest lie. How I choose (or have chosen) to share my life with someone is out of heart generosity; Creating a home life with great meals, deep conversations with intimate passionate moments. Combining that life with someone who has their life together built on character and integrity not a derailed trainwreck with no direction in sight blaming whoever for their misguided mishaps in life always looking for the next chase!
People who are looking to get some kind of validation will make up god terrible stories to filter out to anyone who will listen because they need to justify why they have acted the way that they have. If people can not get their way... manipulate and control the situation they will go onto the next person waiting (that person has set up a stream of... "what can I get out of them" to supply me) This is an addict, narcissist, and only child syndrome. What is in it for me? How can I get attention from you? and or anything else that suits my needs at the time. These are individuals that are always looking for the next take.
This applies to women also who think, well I could not get this from so and so ... so now I am going to "hook" up with him because he has promised me... and this ring on my hand proves... and he will provide ... because I need to be taken care of... BECAUSE THAT SHOWS HE LOVES ME. Odds are... she has made a lifetime of poor choices falling for the same types over and over and over. {if you do not believe me do a little fact-checking on case net!}
My point in this content is... people need to be aware of how professionals can pick apart all stories. The who, the what, the where, and how... it usually does not add up to the WHY?
I will share this from a personal situation I was in. In 2008 when the world was turning upside down people were losing jobs, houses, and cars. The economic crash did more damage to relationships than it did to the stock market. I was doing everything in my power to find another job. My unemployment checks were going to my household bills, car payment, and my mortgage the best way I could stretch 320.00 a week. Big finance was holding payments letting them roll on to the next month so it looked like people were in default of or breach of... when that was not the case AT ALL. I made my payments... Big finance knew the game. They knew that if they could hold 3 mos of payment automatically it would go into collections and repossessions. Luckily I was able to save my home. I battled with Wells Fargo but yet they came and took my car although I had ALL THE PROOF I had made my payments. I also at the time was receiving food stamps that were feeding a family of 5. I was using what I had to feed and care for the guy I was involved with and his children. Although those food stamps were held over my head... it never stopped them from eating.
I was without my car for some weeks before he handed me the money to get my car back. Now at that time, I was told, "I took this out of my daughter's bank account, make sure you thank her!" Which I did. That same night I called her and thanked her profusely. A little confused, she said, " oh... ok no problem. I'm glad I could help. You know I love you." I responded back the same. As years progressed that kind gesture was held over my head... "but I did that for you!" "Do you know what I had to go thru?" Then in an email, as lies were being spewed paragraph after paragraph double talk out of both sides of his mouth... He claims, " It took me forever to pay that back! I had to take out a pay loan!!!" The funny thing about that was... he was taking out pay loans for all his personal and business obligations. His workflow slow to none! But yet my fault, not enough to give or hand out... As we stood in my kitchen arguing about who was responsible for buying his children's shoes. His kids who I took places, bought them clothes, birthday cakes, gifts etc... but yet did I know what he had to go through? Baffles my mind. Does he realize what I went through? Does he realize the agonizing pain he personally put me through?
I have been trained to pick apart all stories! I have been trained to see 2 sides and find resolve in the lie. I have been taught to pick apart sentences and read between the lines and be in tune with what I feel is real and what the person is not saying to convey all truths. The human mind will make up so many versions of the truth to compensate for behavior so it will come out like a truth when in fact it has been fabricated in the worst way. It's not so much that others will believe but if they tell a version that sounds so convincing to themself... they know for sure someone else will buy what's been said. A lie told like a truth is still a lie no matter which verbiage is used.
My customers, clients, and students know that when they come to me I can spot identify facts. I boldly show them what could have been done different and sadly where "that person" went so wrong. It is proven fact, textbook example, people do not change. Their behavior is shared the same with each person after until they realize the actions that caused the damage to the relationship. Past behaviors unequivocally hands-down show up in present relationships creating havoc for all future relationships. In order for real change to occur the truth needs to be admitted and the guilt associated with needs to be reckoned with so the person can adapt to a loving emotionally and physically healthier environment. A person has to come to terms with how the behavioral effects made towards their partner at the time and lingering residual resentment that will stay present.
If you would like more information on my life or biz coaching classes please visit https://kitryn-marie.weebly.com
I am taking personal mentoring questions via email up to 4 per email at 15.00 per question payment is to be made Paypal.me/kitrynmarie then send your questions kitrynmarie@gmail.com
I look forward to seeing you in one of my classes or hearing from you! Please also note for 2020 I am teaching "How to Write Your Story" Book or journal writing and blogging... autobiography or fictional for publishing. The series is 5 classes @ 90.00 each and receive the 6th one for free. You must live in the St. Louis mo area.
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
