Open The Flood Gate

The Monday morning slug... the slowest of crawls dreading the start of the week. Are you feeling it? It is raining like heck here in St. Louis. The flood gates down the street are open, a usual sign for that creek that sits yonder; it is about to overflow and the residents that sit below my street will need access out! UGH and just YUK! .

We are on year what? The day? Who cares its Monday... into the 12th of get the F... out of here! This life is not working! Right? I can hear you all the way over here! From whatever part of the country you live in! It's gotten very old, hasn't it? This life you pretend to exist in... how is it working out for you?

That tradesman who rushes to get out of his house to go nowhere with no jobs on the books but he has to look like he has a place to be... to escape whatever is in his household. (only to be at the bar by 11:30) How bout that worker, boots on, tools all clean waiting to jump through puddles dive deep into the murky waters so he/she can claim a paycheck over an hourly dollar amount that will now meet minimum wages status while good hard skill sets go to waste! Let's hear from that office girl who sits in her dead-end job, sitting on her rear, shuffling papers, eating m&ms that she has stashed in her drawer, working for a company that is making all the money, and using her as a peasant. "Hon, did you make coffee this morning? Wow, did you see all those dishes in the break room. Someone is gonna have to clean that up." Let us check in on that food worker who has been up at the crack of dawn, going over menus for staff and patients/clients that truly is just a warm body taking up space letting all of her culinary skills go down a drain just like all of those dishes she washes! etc etc etc... feel free to put your own unstimulating position in the mix!

As we grow out of teenhood into adulthood, we can't wait to get out on our own and become SOMETHING! Those recall moments of; I am not going to be like my mom or dad!!! I'm gonna make something of myself. Only to go get a job, earn a measly paycheck and be truly unhappy wasting years on something that was not meant for you. Although being told you need to become responsible! You need to earn your keep! You need to prove to some company you are qualified and accountable for doing a job that keeps you enslaved to a company that will replace you in a heartbeat!

In situations like the above, many look for some flood gate to open so they can escape what they have been made to believe or worse being stuck in an environment because they gave up on where they would better else be served. I never have been able to wrap my head around doing or being in a job that is not conducive to soul planning. Ya know the things that excite you, make you a knowledgeable, worthy, an interesting person that others would want to emulate, and come to you for advice. I realize not everyone can be a "teacher" but everyone can be a mentor! No matter what your family stance was or how not your parents mentored you! Real skills, talents, and gifts can be shared!

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Is this you? The personal misery of working a strenuous laboring job that teeter-totters on mental disarray because someone else is depending on you to fix someone else's problem that someone else created! If your nightly routine ends in pounding down a more than over adequate amount of adult beverages so you can short term check out of the day's stupidity, shutting out the days' activities, 2 at a time...hoping to take an edge off before you explode... (Houston I think we have made contact) other than being a functioning alcoholic...or an addict; Good God you are in the wrong job!

That tradesman that has not adequately placed all his financials in place keeping separate accounts for home and business, relying on possibly another (in his household) to pick up his slack; who walks around all nilly willy, overwhelmed, not taking advice before the job starts constantly ignoring the financials; who is forever blurting out "it is what it is" hoping by osmosis monies will be there after foolishly spending an ungodly amount at the place he frequents from the days he has pretended he has gone to work! "hello, is this thing on?"

That woman who has sat at her desk, taken advantage of by her employer who has gained an enormous amount of weight, sluggishly trying to fit into clothes that no longer make her feel vibrant and invigorating, stagnant in all of her conversations because she has nothing of interest to add to those that she comes in contact with and when she does speak it is nothing but blatant complaining of how miserable her life is... "Sweetie, look in the mirror. Who have you become?"

My poor lifeless kitchen worker who has sliced one too many potatoes throwing them in a pot of boiling water watching her own life boil down to nothing... Too hot to handle pertains more to temperament than temperature! A waste of skills... evaporating into nothing.

I bet you would not even imagine their counter partners that they deal with daily and their unbearable moods that their significant's has to deal with. Sometimes misery likes company but sadly their company no longer wants to hear about things they refuse to alter and fix! The drain, the emotional letdowns, the baited conversations, they do not even realize they are starting because they are so frustrated with their own choices, they have no one else to take out their frustrations on! I shake my head been there done that... and NO MORE!

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Running your own business comes with an added responsibility. The many hats you need to wear to ensure all procedures are run smoothly can often put a strain on the very many entities that need special attention. Being organized and having an aforethought plan knowing you will have some kind of follow-through showing a benefit and being happy with a choice is always the end result most are looking for. Not everyone though is cut out to run their own business. The way they look at money, how they actually feel about spending it or saving it or even more how to invest it!

I am forever looking at people seeing where their words are in correlation to what they do for a living. It is so easy to pick where they are not happy. It shows up first and foremost when they start talking about what they do for a living. Where they spend their time and how they spend their time off. Yes, we all love the escape! Getting to other places via short-term mental naps to replenish mind body and soul. The great getaway to just leave the environments and sadly the vices that alter moods just to shut out the BS they have had to deal with but when does a person realize it's time for a huge change? What and when is that pinnacle moment when "someone" realizes... enough? I just can no longer do this! Especially when the body is breaking down and health has become a great issue. All the health insurance in the world (if not ever used) does not do a person a bit of good if never taken advantage of from a job that literally has been slowly killing them.

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I mostly deal with women and their forever need for more to their life. The biggest challenge always is their dependency on their husbands/boyfriends... the bad habits they refuse to look at and the bad habits they have adapted to. Any woman that allows their significant to continually berate and abuse them has some serious "mind" issues. She has been conditioned for emotional breakdown questioning her worth as if she can not do anything on her own. The excuses staggering if not heartbreaking. So many times we hear people ask, "why don't you just leave?" where the more important question, "why doesn't he just stop?" That right there says more about his character than her reasoning for staying.

Although my classes or my coaching is more suited for women in their desire for wanting to use their gifts and talents in a more appropriate setting to earn an income, I think its high time that men need to start taking a look at their life (no matter their age) and question why and where they have wasted their efforts. Look back into what instilled a thought process that said, "this is what you have to do to be successful?" and seriously question and be honest in the answer to why they can't get out of where they are and into the place they want to be. Understanding being committed to a passion with a purpose is far more rewarding than being attached to a title, a paycheck or a company that does serve their best interests. Even that tradesman that runs around with all the bells and whistles, loaded up tools, ladders etc... if he can not get to the square root as to why he can not make financial ends meet, he needs to reexamine his motives. Maybe he does not want to work and he is afraid of what real success looks like because that requires a different type of mindset that he is not wired for. He is not emotionally or mentally equipped to handle a business that requires a hands-on approach, hiring an apprentice not using his girlfriend as his lackey and stays out and off the barstool! {we have seen this scenario all too often}

Others need to understand not everything has to be in a regime. Not everything has to be in routine; where living life on autopilot because that is how they have been conditioned for(then expecting everyone else just to be ok with it)... DON'T THINK, DON'T FEEL, JUST WORK, DO WHAT IS EXPECTED, DO THE JOB ...EVEN IF IT KILLS YOU! Tour of duties does not apply to real-life only those conditioned to let someone else think for them where the scenario has been laid before them and the challenge has been not to question why they have been told to do. Wings and prayers... right?

So as I finish this very lengthy writing, I am putting together my own new form of changing things up for my classes and coaching sessions. I still prefer creative-minded women who need to learn how to take what they already know and dive a little deeper into how they can make extra dollars if not taking their talent to another whole level! I am though going to be exploring classes on how men can see their own personal strengths leaving their ego aside and diving into what got them there, to begin with. Discovering where was the starting point?

All inquiries are welcome! kitrynmarie@gmail.com My classes are in groups or 1/1 in person 2-3 hrs or online 1 hour 55.00

Isn't it just time the flood gates open?

Be Happy Be Blessed

Kitryn Marie