Osmosis... It's Not Working Is It?
Is there a better time than now? Have you looked at all the things you have started and have not finished? (we'll get to my list in a hot minute) How many times have you heard yourself say, " When I have time. When I have more money. When I am not so tired. When I get to that next location. When I change jobs. When I retire. When I get more organized. When I get more healthy. When I lose all this weight! etc etc etc..." That list of excuses can grow into another lifetime. Sure it does take some money. It may take some serious elbow grease. It probably all needs to be reorganized and yes we all want to get to that next location! But let's examine right now where you are and kinda reaccess how you got yourself there, shall we?
Time happens and we all fall into this mode of "well it can't stay like this forever or the proverbial it is what it is or my favorite keep doing the same thing with the same people hoping it's going to have a better outcome" hoping/wishing by some osmosis something will magically present itself with no effort and by the "viol'a" gods that next big move is gonna happen and you never had to put any effort into it. Now, this does not take away from happenstance or synchronicity because the right place and at the right time does occur by some strange coincidence but even that takes an effort of mind. Somewhere in your deep thought process, you are mentally putting some vibes in place setting you up for that "moment" because a sincere with purposeful intent is aligning that great happening to be! {law of attraction}Emotionally you are very well aware that things will occur because some effort thru clarity is seeing it to be!
Too many times, we sit in our own pool of "what the hell mess have I made" and why can't I change this? Quite simply because you keep choosing the same path and more than not, it takes great bravery to do something completely different than what you have always done! You can't keep picking the same drunk type guys hoping he is going to save you from life...when he is drowning in his own screwed up emotional baggage. Or a guy, can not keep picking the same type of woman who is an emotional mess who thinks she is going to save him when she can't even save herself or a dollar to survive on her own!
You can not blame your job for the duties you've been assigned well knowing what you were being paid to do for the job hired on for. If a person thinks smarter and they are aware of their worth they would scrutinize why they are being put through so much crap and stop abusing their body and mind and search for a more better-suited position matching intelligence with wit and brawn!
A person can not eat the most unhealthy of foods or keep shoving all that alcohol down their throats and wonder why they look like they have aged way before their time or why the 60lbs in their mid area keeps growing. Oh, but "it is what it is"... right? ... Drink another!
A couple can not keep looking at each other in disgust never taking responsibility for why they themselves are personally unhappy! They each have looked at the other to be this sort of salvation for the miserable choices and bad habits and poor decisions they have patterned in their life. It is not anyone else's responsibility to make YOU happy! You are under NO obligation to feel the same way as the other, especially if it does not align with your core spirit. Under no circumstances are you obligated to stay in a situation you have outgrown, if it has become abusive or it is physically emotionally harming you! People come together and people end relationships... its a fact of life. What brings people together often is what tears them apart. Staying together depends on how people can grow differently and separately being an interesting vessel adding value to the relationship on many levels as the relationships change while people grow and evolve. No one wants to be with anyone stuck in the past with a life they no longer live...
Money and its roots to all evil. If you live within your means and understand how the currency works and you do not nilly willy spend it on frivolities {you don't need} and pay attention to what responsibilities have to be taken care of first: the art of money stretching becomes a necessity and a life long tool for survival. If you know you have small children to feed, you certainly are not going to spend what few dollars you have at the bar while leaving them at home to scramble for what little food is in the cupboard. If you know you have huge utility bills to pay, you are not going to run to Walmart to buy yourself several outfits because you have this distorted image of how you perceive yourself to look, thinking well if I play the part, it gives the illusion, therefore people will think I am living this grand life and viol'a I am going to get a better job! What the what? Oh, that is a real thing! Trust me!
Money and the security of... if I hold onto! If I stash it and not let anyone know I have it! If I just keep putting this away... If I can hide it and let people think I have nothing, they just might give me, treat me, allow me, feel for me... Yeah, that is a real thing too! Or my absolute favorite!!!! Well, I have this business and all of my money needs to go into what I do so therefore YOU GO TO WORK AND YOU PAY FOR EVERYTHING! because I am a businessman! (SMH if you only knew)
Is it too much to ask for people to look at what they have been hoarding and why? Do you realize the amount of money wasted on storage units? The things people purchase for a "later date" They just might need it or someone else could use it; which they never give away. How about all the collectibles they have stashed high on a shelf still in packages not opened because out of boredom they thought well this might be worth something to someone after I am dead! The mint coins, the porcelain plates, or how bout creepy dolls, a dollhouse, old toys, old liquor bottles, bottles found in the trash, metal and copper pots, nick nack paddy wack give the dog a bone... Hoarders! and their attachments to because it fills a very empty void!
*A personal note. I do enjoy looking at and buying antique and estate sales. My response though is always the same. "How sad. A person's whole life being discarded and divided for the sale of $$$$$. The value of sentiment in that one person's life now means nothing" As I walk through some of these homes I take stock in who they were and try to understand what a certain something meant to someone so much. Things I look for; pyrex baking glass dishes, unique shattered glass bowls/vases, quilts, things for my dogs, on occasions rugs, and always seeking out books!!!! I also know my daughter who holds no sentimental value at all, who frequently says, "mom just get rid of this." I use what I need. I buy what is necessary at the time for usage and it always gives me a deeper sense of appreciation for life! While I immensely enjoy thrift and resale shopping it usually is for clothes. I have no need to hoard but if you would look at my basement currently,,,lol,,, I'm good to go for my own art shop and studio! Inventory and surplus.
So let me ask you, what's in your garage? Why? is it useable? Do you really need it? Are you organized? If you went out there right now looking for "something" do you know where it's at? What about your storage unit in the basement? In that locker? In that back room? On that clothesline? How many years have you had that? Is that pinball machine down there? Do you even know why you hung onto it? Do any of those clothes that have been hanging even fit you? What purpose does it solve now? Shall we discuss that junk draw, the one under your small tv in the kitchen? or the junk drawer under your knives and fork drawer? What's under your sink? and God forbid what is hiding on your refrigerator and or that cabinet above it? Just because you do not see it or you choose to ignore it does not mean it is not there for you to reorganize and reestablish your need for an old odd habit of hoarding!
Repairs, what have you neglected in your house? Even if you rent there are still things that need to be rehung, shelves that could be put up, furniture that needs a tweak or two maybe restoring a piece of glass, doors that squeak, steps that could be cleaned and carpeted. How bout those walls that need to be plastered? Painted? Old outdated wallpaper that you hung with your ex that needs to come down! New faucets? New shower doors... new locks! What and why have you neglected? Where has been your priority in the way that you live? The place you dwell and that abode you call home... that swinging door where many have walked through and out?
Is there a better time than now? Have you looked at all the things you have started and have not finished? (we'll get to my list in a hot minute) How many times have you heard yourself say, " When I have time. When I have more money. When I am not so tired. When I get to that next location. When I change jobs. When I retire. When I get more organized. When I get more healthy. When I lose all this weight! etc etc etc..." That list of excuses can grow into another lifetime. Sure it does take some money. It may take some serious elbow grease. It probably all needs to be reorganized and yes we all want to get to that next location! For all the right reasons!
Currently, I am sitting (no pun intended) with a broken toilet in the basement. I am still having electrical issues with my kitchen chandelier not to mention I could use about 4 new outlets but then that would require an updated service box. The furnace/boiler once again needs to have its burners cleaned out. My kitchen ceiling is crumbling due to a leak in the attic from the AC handler's faulty pan and both of my porches are disintegrating with every change of the temperature. I laugh, the life of a homeowner and 16 years of living wear and tear!
Now I know osmosis is not going to rectify any of those issues so with all that said, while I am on this hiatus from my regular gig, I am doing what I know how to do to fix with the little help of YOUTUBE and a lot of elbow grease and my sensational appetite for living better! and working within the know-how of what I am capable of doing on my own.
Isn't that what we all are supposed to be doing though? Living our best lives creating the best version of how we want to live; doing all the things that we are supposed to do because of all of our own tenacity, strength, determinations, abilities, talents, gifts, dreams, education, brawn, and wit? Matching it with compassion and a great passion for loving all the good things meant in our life?
If you have settled for less or took a wrong road thinking that somehow everything was going to work out, and you are now sitting and looking at "what the hell mess have I made" and why can't I change this? Quite simply because you keep choosing the same path and more than not, it takes great bravery to do something completely different than what you have always done!
The first step is always admitting where you went wrong and then apologize where necessary and find the path to further you where you are supposed to be...doing what is meant to be on purpose!
Be Happy Be Blessed
Kitryn Marie
