It Is Coming Down To The Wire
It is coming down to the wire. A few more mos and he is done! I am done! All my attempts, good efforts, love, admiration, affection, care, guidance, and direction will be put to the ultimate test. We will all see in living motion that walk down that proverbial aisle. Headed for bigger, greener and brighter days ahead. My heart be still! How can this be? How is this possible? No wait STOP! (No! LOL This is not a scene from my ex's impending doomed marriage! Your welcome!)
This is though, a scene as my youngest graduates from high school. My baby is ready to take center stage and accept his very first acclamation towards completing a daunting, thought out, drawn out 4 year assignment. GRADUATION!!!! We are done! Well, at least we are done for highschool! ( a mothers job is never finished)
The child I chose to have at 40! My gift from the heavens! Tyler Alan D. has done it! I can not be any prouder! The bond that he and I have, has and always will astound me! He asks for nothing! He demands no big attention! His quiet astute nature has been self-sufficient for years prior to this big hurrah that we will celebrate over! He is my math and science kid! He is also the first out of all of my 3 to grab a tool and fix what needs to be fixed before I, his mother has a meltdown. ( Lucky for you ...you have never seen me with a power tool! Scary... just darn right scary!) His unassuming smile and the way he observes never saying much but when there is something to be said, it is said to the point and then the conversation is done! To his room he goes! Off to that dungeon, owned and occupied by that 18-year old that is less than neat and more than often very disheveled!
He is motivated by money! He understands its value. He is thrifty! ( Can't imagine where he gets that?!) He is my hands on kid willing to go to work cause he knows when that task is done he is compensated for his talents, efforts and really because he keeps showing up to do what is asked and expected of him!
We talk schools. We talk colleges! We talk trades! We have even talked about the military! ( I close my eyes and silently my heart droops and I want to sob harder than I have ever cried over anyone!) It is his choice! It is all his decision! Just like I instilled in the other 2! It will come down to his willingness to succeed in what he finds in his heart to do best! I repeatedly say "Do what makes you happy! Try everything! If you don't like it try something else! No one says you have to only do one thing in this life!" Days of being pigeonholed and forced to do a job that you hate are gone and passe'. If we want this next generation to succeed and make a difference ( A real difference) We are gonna have to understand these kids have different strengths and a completely different view of this world! We as parents (we that have had a real hands-on approach. Guiding, loving, caring and taking an active parent role) need to allow these kids to do what's best for them and find it within our all to SUPPORT AND OFFER A POSITIVE APPROACH to their thought process!
I can remember my own dad imposing some ridiculous expectation on me because his idea of success was something he saw fit. It was nothing though of who I was or how I was made up! My dad wanted me to be a racehorse jockey! for years in my pre-tweens, he said, "you could do that! I could buy you a horse, have it trained and you could be the jockey!" In my teens, he said, " You should be veterinarian!!! Since you have this love for animals, I think owning your own practice will do you good!" When I graduated high school, he said, "I think you should become a nurse! You will have options and the opportunity to meet a DR!" None of that was what I wanted! To appease him, I went to medical assisting school. I managed to get through anatomy and physiology just fine! I excelled in venipuncture although hated the site of blood! I hated giving shots and detested lab work! I graduated with passing grades, walking down an aisle to get my diploma as he sat there drunk on his ass! I did an internship at the Health clinic on Grand and Washington for a few months, till I was mugged in the hall by some less than desirable character. I got away just fine! Just scared and shaken, I finished out that day, said goodbye and went on to work in a dentist office doing the books and receptionist work! Hated it hated it hated it! I Took a job at Venture and became a cashier for several years, till I got married. From there went to work at a Printing Plant doing a variety of things for a few years till I was replaced by someone wanting their job back! From there I started with my arts. Somewhere waaaaay down the line, dad said, " I think I'll open a diner and I will cook and you can wait tables!" I laughed and said, " sure dad, Why not!" It never happened...
My dad got sick. I left my husband. I packed up my kids and 2 poodles moved in with my dad and put myself in college! I studied theatre, journalism, psychology, sociology, music, drawing, and graphic arts. I studied for 2 years! My dad died and none of it seemed worth continuing for! Although in the past several years in conjunction with my online studies, I have used every bit of what I have learned! What I always had in my head was never what was expected of me so, therefore, why would I put that same nonsense on my own children.
That is the problem with this life!!!!! People have so many ridiculous expectations for what they want others to do! Those people can not fight their way out of a wet paper bag but they will impose "WHAT THEY THINK IS BEST!" People only understand at their level of perception! And influenced by a culture that has been taught to be stuck and miserable, I will be damned if I shove that crap down any of my kids throats!
Last we talked, Tyler has given Ranken some consideration. He too has talked about the Electrical field. ( I shudder! Good, he can fix his mothers electric because what flows through these wires keeps tripping breakers! I need designated circuits!!!! and a higher amp! etc etc etc!) Nonetheless, he enjoys the construction field! He likes getting his hands dirty and takes an interest in understanding how things work. He has been taking things apart and putting things back together since the age of 11! My math and science kid will be able to do what will be needed if this is how he plans to experience this next phase of his life!
So....It is coming down to the wire. A few more mos and he is done! I am done! All my attempts, good efforts, love, admiration, affection, care, guidance, and direction will be put to the ultimate test. We will all see in living motion that walk down that proverbial aisle. Headed for bigger, greener and brighter days ahead. My heart be still! How can this be? How is this possible?
No wait STOP! (No this is not a scene from my ex's impending doomed marriage! AGAIN, Your welcome!)
Although this is a scene as my youngest graduates from high school. My baby is ready to take center stage and accept his very first acclamation towards completing a daunting, thought out, drawn out assignment. GRADUATION!!!! We are done! Well, at least we are done for highschool! ( My job will never be done!!)
All I know, I will be right front and center (probably crying)cheering him on knowing I did what was best for him doing whatever I could with whatever I had to work with, allowing him his own options and choices! Tyler Alan D. will do what makes him happy and he will be successful by his own doings because that is how he was raised!
(and as far as the EX... We all know anything he does at this point is never shocking! Just pretty predictable!)
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
This is though, a scene as my youngest graduates from high school. My baby is ready to take center stage and accept his very first acclamation towards completing a daunting, thought out, drawn out 4 year assignment. GRADUATION!!!! We are done! Well, at least we are done for highschool! ( a mothers job is never finished)
The child I chose to have at 40! My gift from the heavens! Tyler Alan D. has done it! I can not be any prouder! The bond that he and I have, has and always will astound me! He asks for nothing! He demands no big attention! His quiet astute nature has been self-sufficient for years prior to this big hurrah that we will celebrate over! He is my math and science kid! He is also the first out of all of my 3 to grab a tool and fix what needs to be fixed before I, his mother has a meltdown. ( Lucky for you ...you have never seen me with a power tool! Scary... just darn right scary!) His unassuming smile and the way he observes never saying much but when there is something to be said, it is said to the point and then the conversation is done! To his room he goes! Off to that dungeon, owned and occupied by that 18-year old that is less than neat and more than often very disheveled!
He is motivated by money! He understands its value. He is thrifty! ( Can't imagine where he gets that?!) He is my hands on kid willing to go to work cause he knows when that task is done he is compensated for his talents, efforts and really because he keeps showing up to do what is asked and expected of him!
We talk schools. We talk colleges! We talk trades! We have even talked about the military! ( I close my eyes and silently my heart droops and I want to sob harder than I have ever cried over anyone!) It is his choice! It is all his decision! Just like I instilled in the other 2! It will come down to his willingness to succeed in what he finds in his heart to do best! I repeatedly say "Do what makes you happy! Try everything! If you don't like it try something else! No one says you have to only do one thing in this life!" Days of being pigeonholed and forced to do a job that you hate are gone and passe'. If we want this next generation to succeed and make a difference ( A real difference) We are gonna have to understand these kids have different strengths and a completely different view of this world! We as parents (we that have had a real hands-on approach. Guiding, loving, caring and taking an active parent role) need to allow these kids to do what's best for them and find it within our all to SUPPORT AND OFFER A POSITIVE APPROACH to their thought process!
I can remember my own dad imposing some ridiculous expectation on me because his idea of success was something he saw fit. It was nothing though of who I was or how I was made up! My dad wanted me to be a racehorse jockey! for years in my pre-tweens, he said, "you could do that! I could buy you a horse, have it trained and you could be the jockey!" In my teens, he said, " You should be veterinarian!!! Since you have this love for animals, I think owning your own practice will do you good!" When I graduated high school, he said, "I think you should become a nurse! You will have options and the opportunity to meet a DR!" None of that was what I wanted! To appease him, I went to medical assisting school. I managed to get through anatomy and physiology just fine! I excelled in venipuncture although hated the site of blood! I hated giving shots and detested lab work! I graduated with passing grades, walking down an aisle to get my diploma as he sat there drunk on his ass! I did an internship at the Health clinic on Grand and Washington for a few months, till I was mugged in the hall by some less than desirable character. I got away just fine! Just scared and shaken, I finished out that day, said goodbye and went on to work in a dentist office doing the books and receptionist work! Hated it hated it hated it! I Took a job at Venture and became a cashier for several years, till I got married. From there went to work at a Printing Plant doing a variety of things for a few years till I was replaced by someone wanting their job back! From there I started with my arts. Somewhere waaaaay down the line, dad said, " I think I'll open a diner and I will cook and you can wait tables!" I laughed and said, " sure dad, Why not!" It never happened...
My dad got sick. I left my husband. I packed up my kids and 2 poodles moved in with my dad and put myself in college! I studied theatre, journalism, psychology, sociology, music, drawing, and graphic arts. I studied for 2 years! My dad died and none of it seemed worth continuing for! Although in the past several years in conjunction with my online studies, I have used every bit of what I have learned! What I always had in my head was never what was expected of me so, therefore, why would I put that same nonsense on my own children.
That is the problem with this life!!!!! People have so many ridiculous expectations for what they want others to do! Those people can not fight their way out of a wet paper bag but they will impose "WHAT THEY THINK IS BEST!" People only understand at their level of perception! And influenced by a culture that has been taught to be stuck and miserable, I will be damned if I shove that crap down any of my kids throats!
Last we talked, Tyler has given Ranken some consideration. He too has talked about the Electrical field. ( I shudder! Good, he can fix his mothers electric because what flows through these wires keeps tripping breakers! I need designated circuits!!!! and a higher amp! etc etc etc!) Nonetheless, he enjoys the construction field! He likes getting his hands dirty and takes an interest in understanding how things work. He has been taking things apart and putting things back together since the age of 11! My math and science kid will be able to do what will be needed if this is how he plans to experience this next phase of his life!
So....It is coming down to the wire. A few more mos and he is done! I am done! All my attempts, good efforts, love, admiration, affection, care, guidance, and direction will be put to the ultimate test. We will all see in living motion that walk down that proverbial aisle. Headed for bigger, greener and brighter days ahead. My heart be still! How can this be? How is this possible?
No wait STOP! (No this is not a scene from my ex's impending doomed marriage! AGAIN, Your welcome!)
Although this is a scene as my youngest graduates from high school. My baby is ready to take center stage and accept his very first acclamation towards completing a daunting, thought out, drawn out assignment. GRADUATION!!!! We are done! Well, at least we are done for highschool! ( My job will never be done!!)
All I know, I will be right front and center (probably crying)cheering him on knowing I did what was best for him doing whatever I could with whatever I had to work with, allowing him his own options and choices! Tyler Alan D. will do what makes him happy and he will be successful by his own doings because that is how he was raised!
(and as far as the EX... We all know anything he does at this point is never shocking! Just pretty predictable!)
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
