If It Looks Like A Sweet Deal
If we could snap our fingers to make things easier would that not be the best thing since sliced bread? Sadly though anything worth having or wanting is hard! It takes work. It takes real smarts, diligence and the desire to stay on the same page mostly all the time.
If it looks like a sweet deal question the motives! Be careful of the _________ who promises you things all wrapped up in shiny words. " I'll buy you a business. I'll buy you a bar. I build you a room for_______! I can get you on here. We can send your kid to school here... You can volunteer here. You can join this that and the other... with"
Be mindful of how a promise starts. Pay attention to the back motives of the person who is offering that sweet deal because if its too good to be true... You have been had! and then question yourself on why you would leave everything you know to do, join, move into a situation that has proved to be a substantial disaster in the past. Past behavior always shows up in present conditions. Especially for a man who has woman after woman in his life! with no pause between!!!
I will forever question any woman who leaves what they have' to have "someone take care of them and or her child/ren, looking for an easy way out... an easier way to live. Needing a convenient out of their current situation because they can not do it on their own. The woman who is desperately looking for a partner... settling on the sweet charmed words she wants to believe! anyone who is offering her something that looks so good! without knowing and reading between those fine lined words that spew out of someone's mouth.
I also question the intelligence, sanity, and morals of that woman, who was the woman, waiting in the wings while having an affair until he got his "current" out of his house. If he cheated on her and everyone else in his past, WAKE UP he will cheat on you too! He has a pattern. What kind of woman falls for the tactics? (not a very smart one) What words did you buy into that any of the other women in his life has not heard before? "She doesn't get me. She was not my best friend. We don't have enough sex. We don't have anything in common. I'm just not attracted to her. My kids didn't like her. She didn't make enough money or have a career. My friends didn't like her. She was annoying, She was fat... she ate too much. She was embarrassing... She never took an interest in my house. She always wanted to be doing something. She wasn't normal. She couldn't understand my work. She was too needy... too clingy etc etc etc! I could go on and on because an intelligent woman would realize the problem really couldn't all be with that person he had been involved with!. The woman he had! There is something wrong with him! She started out just like you... falling for the same bull shit line! ( I hear the boot store is having a sale! I suggest waiters cause by the time you figure it all out... You will be drowning in sorrow and regret!)
I also question the woman who has been the single mom for so long that she would jeopardize her child's well being for a man she has hardly known and move lock stock and barrel into a surrounding where the child knows nothing! What does it say about her mother's character and her ability as a rational stable parent figure? We see this all the time... The woman looking for someone to offer her a better surrounding because she can not do it on her own. She has fallen for every promise made to her. When sadly in the end... the promises will all go unfulfilled! ( I will say this. THERE ARE NO AWARDS FOR BEING A SINGLE PARENT. We all do what we can to take care of our children. I will also add any man that brags on being a single father looking for someone to give him credit for a position that is god given, looking for a special "you are so wonderful," is a special kind of stupid. He gets no accolades because he chose to do it the way he did! There is no special recognition! for any of us! when it comes to being a parent! It is our job!)
Too many women are too quick to give up what they have, their independence, their identity, their friends and their familiar surroundings because they think... HE IS THE ONE! THIS WILL BE PERFECT! HE SAID WE WILL DO THIS THAT AND WHATEVER! They are hell-bent on being with just anyone without learning really what that man is all about. Again, PAST BEHAVIOR ALWAYS SURFACES. HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF. Do your homework! Look at his past relationships.
I have women who tell me how their relationships all started out and how miserable they are for making a quick choice. When all they were wanting was that happily ever after and they ended up heart sickened miserable and now stuck because they became so damn dependent on a situation because they bought into the lie. Their kids angry and bitter and with attitudes that will carry with them all their life based on... that man my mom chose!
Relationships are not easy, to begin with! It would be great if we could snap our fingers and make them easy and simple and long-lasting. People need to come together for the right reasons. Over a time grown and confidence gained between two people who are willing to take their time before any moves are made! It is healthy to do it like that!
The things that bring people together too quickly if not balanced and watched with sincere care will ultimately drive them apart. The honeymoon phase does not last. That woman's sole dependence on that man will become a drain. A man that is used to going and doing his own thing with someone always in the wings... will make sure he has side action ready and available when he feels bogged down and starts not coming home. Also if a man has children grown and out of his house, he will find a way to not be around for the need of yours or worse that child will slow down his efforts and that child will become a burden. Those just aren't my words ...THAT IS A FACT!
It takes real smarts, diligence and the desire to stay on the same page mostly all the time. If it looks like a sweet deal question the motives! If what you have been offered and you quickly jump in... without seeing it all for what it really is. I suggest you look at your own motives because it says nothing about the kind of woman you really are! Foolishly desperate!
If you would like to learn more about healthy relationships and seek what real love looks like for a more meaningful relationship... Inquire about a life coaching session. I have available spaces open!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
If it looks like a sweet deal question the motives! Be careful of the _________ who promises you things all wrapped up in shiny words. " I'll buy you a business. I'll buy you a bar. I build you a room for_______! I can get you on here. We can send your kid to school here... You can volunteer here. You can join this that and the other... with"
Be mindful of how a promise starts. Pay attention to the back motives of the person who is offering that sweet deal because if its too good to be true... You have been had! and then question yourself on why you would leave everything you know to do, join, move into a situation that has proved to be a substantial disaster in the past. Past behavior always shows up in present conditions. Especially for a man who has woman after woman in his life! with no pause between!!!
I will forever question any woman who leaves what they have' to have "someone take care of them and or her child/ren, looking for an easy way out... an easier way to live. Needing a convenient out of their current situation because they can not do it on their own. The woman who is desperately looking for a partner... settling on the sweet charmed words she wants to believe! anyone who is offering her something that looks so good! without knowing and reading between those fine lined words that spew out of someone's mouth.
I also question the intelligence, sanity, and morals of that woman, who was the woman, waiting in the wings while having an affair until he got his "current" out of his house. If he cheated on her and everyone else in his past, WAKE UP he will cheat on you too! He has a pattern. What kind of woman falls for the tactics? (not a very smart one) What words did you buy into that any of the other women in his life has not heard before? "She doesn't get me. She was not my best friend. We don't have enough sex. We don't have anything in common. I'm just not attracted to her. My kids didn't like her. She didn't make enough money or have a career. My friends didn't like her. She was annoying, She was fat... she ate too much. She was embarrassing... She never took an interest in my house. She always wanted to be doing something. She wasn't normal. She couldn't understand my work. She was too needy... too clingy etc etc etc! I could go on and on because an intelligent woman would realize the problem really couldn't all be with that person he had been involved with!. The woman he had! There is something wrong with him! She started out just like you... falling for the same bull shit line! ( I hear the boot store is having a sale! I suggest waiters cause by the time you figure it all out... You will be drowning in sorrow and regret!)
I also question the woman who has been the single mom for so long that she would jeopardize her child's well being for a man she has hardly known and move lock stock and barrel into a surrounding where the child knows nothing! What does it say about her mother's character and her ability as a rational stable parent figure? We see this all the time... The woman looking for someone to offer her a better surrounding because she can not do it on her own. She has fallen for every promise made to her. When sadly in the end... the promises will all go unfulfilled! ( I will say this. THERE ARE NO AWARDS FOR BEING A SINGLE PARENT. We all do what we can to take care of our children. I will also add any man that brags on being a single father looking for someone to give him credit for a position that is god given, looking for a special "you are so wonderful," is a special kind of stupid. He gets no accolades because he chose to do it the way he did! There is no special recognition! for any of us! when it comes to being a parent! It is our job!)
Too many women are too quick to give up what they have, their independence, their identity, their friends and their familiar surroundings because they think... HE IS THE ONE! THIS WILL BE PERFECT! HE SAID WE WILL DO THIS THAT AND WHATEVER! They are hell-bent on being with just anyone without learning really what that man is all about. Again, PAST BEHAVIOR ALWAYS SURFACES. HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF. Do your homework! Look at his past relationships.
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I have women who tell me how their relationships all started out and how miserable they are for making a quick choice. When all they were wanting was that happily ever after and they ended up heart sickened miserable and now stuck because they became so damn dependent on a situation because they bought into the lie. Their kids angry and bitter and with attitudes that will carry with them all their life based on... that man my mom chose!
Relationships are not easy, to begin with! It would be great if we could snap our fingers and make them easy and simple and long-lasting. People need to come together for the right reasons. Over a time grown and confidence gained between two people who are willing to take their time before any moves are made! It is healthy to do it like that!
The things that bring people together too quickly if not balanced and watched with sincere care will ultimately drive them apart. The honeymoon phase does not last. That woman's sole dependence on that man will become a drain. A man that is used to going and doing his own thing with someone always in the wings... will make sure he has side action ready and available when he feels bogged down and starts not coming home. Also if a man has children grown and out of his house, he will find a way to not be around for the need of yours or worse that child will slow down his efforts and that child will become a burden. Those just aren't my words ...THAT IS A FACT!
It takes real smarts, diligence and the desire to stay on the same page mostly all the time. If it looks like a sweet deal question the motives! If what you have been offered and you quickly jump in... without seeing it all for what it really is. I suggest you look at your own motives because it says nothing about the kind of woman you really are! Foolishly desperate!
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If you would like to learn more about healthy relationships and seek what real love looks like for a more meaningful relationship... Inquire about a life coaching session. I have available spaces open!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
