Wanted: Real Friends
The subtle art of making friends, is there such thing? I am at a point in my life where if loyalty has not been in place, I have absolutely no reason to speak with you or speak kindly of you. If my friendship has been abused, taken advantage of and if you have not been able to defend me in my absence than I do not need you in front of me or anywhere in my life! Period! Loyal true friends are hard to come by! They show their colors once something else is of benefit to them elsewhere.
I am very well aware of how busy all our lives become. We get caught up in jobs and doing things with our kids and (now grandkids). We work on our homes and do things with our "spouse figure" but that does not excuse sending that simple text of "hey, I was thinking of you! How are you?" Yes, I know it goes both ways! (which I have sent a few) I find my friendship was good enough when I was saloon tending, The convenience of frequenting a place for a bit of camaraderie and a cold beverage, a gathering place for drunk talk. Possibly a few from that establishment, I thought to be a real friend but time gets away and the common interest is no longer is there which makes me think of what I said a very long time ago, " real friends don't just hang in an establishment together, they invite you over and out." Those that you meet in bars and community clubs are acquaintances... they are only in it for the time being. People need to really be able to distinguish between the two! Real friends keep constant contact... regardless of how much time gets away! It takes just as much work and effort put in just like any relationship that needs to grow strong and worthy and long lasting!
I saw exactly the behavior and the color of loyalty from people I thought were my friends when they chose to chum up to my cheating abusive ex and his new trollip. I saw a person who I had been friends with for years show up drunk on his ass on my doorstep seeking refuge only to try and take advantage of my good nature. I saw what I called a girlfriend befriend that trollip and talk so much shit about which she was not in a position to really talk about but the drinks were flowing free! See real friends do not cohort with cheating abusive men but then again if it is something in it for them... "why, party on!"
See for all those years in that establishment seeing the mindset of what stuck looks like is appalling and sad; the same misery, the same stories the same addictions. News flash!!! So much more of life happens when you leave what you know and strive for outside interest. Yes, I have a multi-interest agenda. Real people have real lives which in turn have real friends. Sometimes the interest is common and sometimes you learn something new! Or better yet sometimes a meal is shared and good conversation is hashed! Laughter is found and bonds are formed!
As an artist and as I have studied to become a life and biz coach, I see the perspective so differently. (And for the critic who I know is reading and getting ready to judge) NO, I AM NOT BETTER THAN ANYONE! Just a little more educated in a field where someone else may not be! Even with friends, there are standards, guidelines, and boundaries. If you would not want it done to you! Don't do it to anyone else! Especially, someone, you call a friend! "What so ever you do to the least of my brother"
So yes, WANTED REAL FRIENDS! Real people with real interest! Ones that know loyalty! Ones that know how to have a fun time outside some dive and some Flintstone club. Money does not need to be an option. Fun does not need to be expensive. Effort and sincerity are though needed with good intention... follow through on words and committed plans.
A person once said, " if you don't like your surroundings, get out of your playpen!" Finding the real in people is hard enough but finding a real friend is as difficult as nailing jello to a tree. Anyone can be superficial and can hang around you if there is something in it for them! Be mindful of the takers that claim to be your friend... dimes a dozen for the fake.
Now excuse me while I (we) plan the next fishing outing, at my lake in the woods miles away from the masses of asses! Its an open invitation to those who are seeking what having a real friend is like and a really good bbq! BYOB 😁
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
I am very well aware of how busy all our lives become. We get caught up in jobs and doing things with our kids and (now grandkids). We work on our homes and do things with our "spouse figure" but that does not excuse sending that simple text of "hey, I was thinking of you! How are you?" Yes, I know it goes both ways! (which I have sent a few) I find my friendship was good enough when I was saloon tending, The convenience of frequenting a place for a bit of camaraderie and a cold beverage, a gathering place for drunk talk. Possibly a few from that establishment, I thought to be a real friend but time gets away and the common interest is no longer is there which makes me think of what I said a very long time ago, " real friends don't just hang in an establishment together, they invite you over and out." Those that you meet in bars and community clubs are acquaintances... they are only in it for the time being. People need to really be able to distinguish between the two! Real friends keep constant contact... regardless of how much time gets away! It takes just as much work and effort put in just like any relationship that needs to grow strong and worthy and long lasting!
I saw exactly the behavior and the color of loyalty from people I thought were my friends when they chose to chum up to my cheating abusive ex and his new trollip. I saw a person who I had been friends with for years show up drunk on his ass on my doorstep seeking refuge only to try and take advantage of my good nature. I saw what I called a girlfriend befriend that trollip and talk so much shit about which she was not in a position to really talk about but the drinks were flowing free! See real friends do not cohort with cheating abusive men but then again if it is something in it for them... "why, party on!"
See for all those years in that establishment seeing the mindset of what stuck looks like is appalling and sad; the same misery, the same stories the same addictions. News flash!!! So much more of life happens when you leave what you know and strive for outside interest. Yes, I have a multi-interest agenda. Real people have real lives which in turn have real friends. Sometimes the interest is common and sometimes you learn something new! Or better yet sometimes a meal is shared and good conversation is hashed! Laughter is found and bonds are formed!
As an artist and as I have studied to become a life and biz coach, I see the perspective so differently. (And for the critic who I know is reading and getting ready to judge) NO, I AM NOT BETTER THAN ANYONE! Just a little more educated in a field where someone else may not be! Even with friends, there are standards, guidelines, and boundaries. If you would not want it done to you! Don't do it to anyone else! Especially, someone, you call a friend! "What so ever you do to the least of my brother"
So yes, WANTED REAL FRIENDS! Real people with real interest! Ones that know loyalty! Ones that know how to have a fun time outside some dive and some Flintstone club. Money does not need to be an option. Fun does not need to be expensive. Effort and sincerity are though needed with good intention... follow through on words and committed plans.
A person once said, " if you don't like your surroundings, get out of your playpen!" Finding the real in people is hard enough but finding a real friend is as difficult as nailing jello to a tree. Anyone can be superficial and can hang around you if there is something in it for them! Be mindful of the takers that claim to be your friend... dimes a dozen for the fake.
Now excuse me while I (we) plan the next fishing outing, at my lake in the woods miles away from the masses of asses! Its an open invitation to those who are seeking what having a real friend is like and a really good bbq! BYOB 😁
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
Kitryn Marie
Life and Biz Coach
Booking now...
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