If My Words Hit A Nerve, Ask Yourself Why It Hits A Nerve?
Typically I do not write two posts in one week, but since I am a more than a little unnerved, I felt it necessary. There is something to be said about life coaching. First and foremost though let me say, even as a coach (any of us that do coaching,) each day we deal with our own life's issues. We each have a story that has brought us to where we are! We are not above nor or any of us perfect. We all have shit to come to terms with and how we each deal depends on the rational behavior of our emotions. (I make a point to tell my people this!)
Right now, to say the least, I am angered. It is said one of the healing processes of grief is; when you get to the anger stage... 1. you can talk about something without crying and 2. you are ready to take back your life by an action.
An action... a call to stand up and out and do something about what happened.
Nope, I am not perfect. (perfection is an entity that leaves you chasing your tail tyring to achieve something that can not happen and does not exist!) By any means, I am not this wholesome figure of saintedness. I have been called callous and cold and unfeeling. (which I laugh because it really is the contrast to what is in my heart!) Make me mad enough and yep that is though what you are gonna get! I am human. I am entitled to feel. I am entitled to speak! I am entitled to say, "you hurt me, you abused me, you cheated on me (not once but several times and you had 3 different woman move in your house behind my back!) you lied to me and you put me through more shit beyond what any woman should have ever had to deal with in a relationship and I will not keep quiet about it!" I have been through enough crap over the last too many years to keep quiet now. This is why I went into life coaching! Healing takes a long long long time To grieve a person and or a relationship takes even longer, especially when that person continues to reach out to see if all has been forgiven or forgotten so he can go on and live life anew with a clean conscious! I will though be the bigger person and say, go right ahead but... It still all happened and you can't say it didn't.
As a coach, I empower my women to step forward and say out loud what has happened in their life. There is a whole campaign targeting woman to speak up about the abuse that has happened in their life. NO ONE can stop them from speaking. The Narccistic man: He is the coward that moves from woman to woman pretending his behavior is acceptable! It is the man that moves from woman to woman discarding who is no longer of use to him once his needs get met. There is someone always waiting in the wings! He discards with no warning and pulls the rug out from underneath leaving a disaster in the quake of his departure. The woman, he bolding looked deep into her eyes while the deepest of intimacy had occurred and knowingly was lying through his teeth. It is a hard act to recover from and once that woman finds her voice it no longer can stay silenced.
That woman becomes so downtrodden and broken by that betrayal, the term being in love is irrelevant to subject matter. There is absolutely no feelings left at all. All emotions become numb! Trying to find any kind of footing is a feat in itself. Emotionally exhausted is beyond being tired... it is the soul that has been damaged with no recovery in sight. The anger that has laid dormant becomes full steam and there is no way of stopping or silencing the voice that that man has tried to keep quiet so no one would find out about his horrific behavior.
I teach my women, no one can force you to do something you do not want to do. If are not ready to be in a relationship than don't! It takes time to heal and find any energy to trust. There is no specific time for Intimacy and sex; trust has to be rebuilt with passion and a desire... unlike the man that moves from woman to woman who has a sexual addiction and will put his penis in anyone willing to do what he charms them into doing!
I reserve red flags to throw in the air... to help and warn. If my words hit a nerve. Ask yourself why it hits a nerve. This is what I do for a living! This is the business I have been trying to build for the last 2 years! There are 7 billion people in this world. My words are seen and heard and read by many. There are women who are lost and desperate to find hope and the courage to rebuild their life after someone has destroyed the unfilling promises that were made. I know that for a fact. 8 years with someone... who did nothing but use and abuse because it was about him and his. He took every bit of my love and passion and energy to the point of exhaustion and becoming deathly ill. I loved so much and did so much it damn near killed me. Then he continued to have the audacity to reach out as if all was fine and good! It is the narcissistic man that will continually reach out to keep playing that game... all the while someone new is in his house! it is a wash, rinse and repeat cycle...lifestyle.
Men move mountains for women they love. They don't hide behind them hoping no one finds out about what he did. And men who really love with all sincerity, don't ask women with children to leave their home and everything that child knows to come live in a place where there is no familiarity and shame on that woman who abandons what ground she stands on for a man she hardly knows. Relationships are hard enough... throw kids in the mix and it is more difficult because that narcissist will use that child as a weapon against you.
So if my words hit a nerve or bother you, ask yourself why they bother you? Look in the mirror. Anyone who is reading this... WHY? What is it so about yourself that you find my teaching and speaking and helping others to recover from that upsets your world?? 7 billion people... this matter affects us all!
Reach out! Encourage those you know who have been abused. Call out the behavior of the person who is a liar and a cheat. No one should be abused under any circumstances. No one is allowed to control another person and keep them locked under scrutiny.
There are no white flags in my closet... only red!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
Life and Biz Coach
"Its peace of mind and peace of heart... that I seek. Something that has no expectation and a small something that puts a smile on my face. "In Love" is irrelevant to all subject matters!"
Kitryn Marie
“In any narcissistic relationship, the narcissist wants to be seen as the adult and the other person as the child,” “This belittlement is done in several condescending ways such as literally talking down, calling the other person immature, and saying the other person needs to grow up. The implication is that the narcissist is more mature and has developed beyond the level of the other person.”
Right now, to say the least, I am angered. It is said one of the healing processes of grief is; when you get to the anger stage... 1. you can talk about something without crying and 2. you are ready to take back your life by an action.
An action... a call to stand up and out and do something about what happened.
Nope, I am not perfect. (perfection is an entity that leaves you chasing your tail tyring to achieve something that can not happen and does not exist!) By any means, I am not this wholesome figure of saintedness. I have been called callous and cold and unfeeling. (which I laugh because it really is the contrast to what is in my heart!) Make me mad enough and yep that is though what you are gonna get! I am human. I am entitled to feel. I am entitled to speak! I am entitled to say, "you hurt me, you abused me, you cheated on me (not once but several times and you had 3 different woman move in your house behind my back!) you lied to me and you put me through more shit beyond what any woman should have ever had to deal with in a relationship and I will not keep quiet about it!" I have been through enough crap over the last too many years to keep quiet now. This is why I went into life coaching! Healing takes a long long long time To grieve a person and or a relationship takes even longer, especially when that person continues to reach out to see if all has been forgiven or forgotten so he can go on and live life anew with a clean conscious! I will though be the bigger person and say, go right ahead but... It still all happened and you can't say it didn't.
As a coach, I empower my women to step forward and say out loud what has happened in their life. There is a whole campaign targeting woman to speak up about the abuse that has happened in their life. NO ONE can stop them from speaking. The Narccistic man: He is the coward that moves from woman to woman pretending his behavior is acceptable! It is the man that moves from woman to woman discarding who is no longer of use to him once his needs get met. There is someone always waiting in the wings! He discards with no warning and pulls the rug out from underneath leaving a disaster in the quake of his departure. The woman, he bolding looked deep into her eyes while the deepest of intimacy had occurred and knowingly was lying through his teeth. It is a hard act to recover from and once that woman finds her voice it no longer can stay silenced.
That woman becomes so downtrodden and broken by that betrayal, the term being in love is irrelevant to subject matter. There is absolutely no feelings left at all. All emotions become numb! Trying to find any kind of footing is a feat in itself. Emotionally exhausted is beyond being tired... it is the soul that has been damaged with no recovery in sight. The anger that has laid dormant becomes full steam and there is no way of stopping or silencing the voice that that man has tried to keep quiet so no one would find out about his horrific behavior.
I teach my women, no one can force you to do something you do not want to do. If are not ready to be in a relationship than don't! It takes time to heal and find any energy to trust. There is no specific time for Intimacy and sex; trust has to be rebuilt with passion and a desire... unlike the man that moves from woman to woman who has a sexual addiction and will put his penis in anyone willing to do what he charms them into doing!
I reserve red flags to throw in the air... to help and warn. If my words hit a nerve. Ask yourself why it hits a nerve. This is what I do for a living! This is the business I have been trying to build for the last 2 years! There are 7 billion people in this world. My words are seen and heard and read by many. There are women who are lost and desperate to find hope and the courage to rebuild their life after someone has destroyed the unfilling promises that were made. I know that for a fact. 8 years with someone... who did nothing but use and abuse because it was about him and his. He took every bit of my love and passion and energy to the point of exhaustion and becoming deathly ill. I loved so much and did so much it damn near killed me. Then he continued to have the audacity to reach out as if all was fine and good! It is the narcissistic man that will continually reach out to keep playing that game... all the while someone new is in his house! it is a wash, rinse and repeat cycle...lifestyle.
Men move mountains for women they love. They don't hide behind them hoping no one finds out about what he did. And men who really love with all sincerity, don't ask women with children to leave their home and everything that child knows to come live in a place where there is no familiarity and shame on that woman who abandons what ground she stands on for a man she hardly knows. Relationships are hard enough... throw kids in the mix and it is more difficult because that narcissist will use that child as a weapon against you.
So if my words hit a nerve or bother you, ask yourself why they bother you? Look in the mirror. Anyone who is reading this... WHY? What is it so about yourself that you find my teaching and speaking and helping others to recover from that upsets your world?? 7 billion people... this matter affects us all!
Reach out! Encourage those you know who have been abused. Call out the behavior of the person who is a liar and a cheat. No one should be abused under any circumstances. No one is allowed to control another person and keep them locked under scrutiny.
There are no white flags in my closet... only red!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
Life and Biz Coach
"Its peace of mind and peace of heart... that I seek. Something that has no expectation and a small something that puts a smile on my face. "In Love" is irrelevant to all subject matters!"
Kitryn Marie
“In any narcissistic relationship, the narcissist wants to be seen as the adult and the other person as the child,” “This belittlement is done in several condescending ways such as literally talking down, calling the other person immature, and saying the other person needs to grow up. The implication is that the narcissist is more mature and has developed beyond the level of the other person.”
