If It Makes You Happy
We all need to take realty breaks. It is good to separate yourself from your surroundings from time to time to regain clarity. Happiness is an inside job and if you are not happy with yourself, how in the world would you expect anyone else to be happy with you!
I have learned a long time ago happiness does not come from the co-dependence of your significant other or does happiness secure a place by a rock that sits on your finger! Happiness does not come from being glued to one's hip or being the sole source of entertainment to another. A person can not be expected to be a source of enlightenment all the time. It is draining and it will suck the life out of a person... where there will be nothing later to give. Happiness does not come from being bought or showered with gifts... those gifting moments should remain for special occasions creating happy memories. Celebrating happy moments! Happiness does not come from constantly shopping! ( For you shopaholics... it's a temporary fix to fill a void because your inner soul is empty and you feel shopping will nourish the empty: where in reality the high will fade from the purchase and you will feel worse after knowing the sticker shock! and the money wasted on stuff you did not need! )
Self-Happiness does promote a well being of contentment within oneself; liking your own company enough to where you don't need someone all the time at your side to prove happiness exist. To have separate interest.... an interest of your own that feeds your soul that feeling of purpose where you can be elated over something you have created, gave birth to or did on your own ... where you can later share your knowledge and engage in a meaningful conversation over such. It keeps you interesting!! Happiness comes from having a secure sense of self. To be secure with one's self is the most independent freest feeling there is!
Not having to be talking, listening to your own thoughts where no one is there to interject on your personal feeling and thoughts. (or asking you whats wrong because you just want to be quiet.) To read a book and get lost in moments between pages without having to explain... To take a walk and really look at the sights and listen to the sounds finding that inner peace that brings so much tranquility to your soul. "If it disrupts your peace, it is not where you need to be." there is too much of a cost losing your peace of mind. It is something that takes years to recover from. No one is allowed to steal your happy! NO ONE!!
Just as the only child needs to keep himself occupied or the child that has been left alone for too long... they find ways to keep busy by themselves because they have had no choice. It becomes second skin. They learned to find the happiness within oneself and the adult that becomes from those childhood moments has an extremely difficult time as an adult engaging and entertaining others on a day to day basis because alone was what they knew! The condurum as the adult... they equate alone with being happy! There is peace in the alone and where there is peace... there is happy!!!
This equation would also suit the family that had more than 5 siblings, There is always one that wants to get away from the masses to find themselves looking for their own happiness and identity separate from...what others associated them with! They craved the alone and once they achieved it... it was the happiest place on earth!
The woman that sat at home, waiting for the man that never came home when he was supposed to... she learned to be happy on her own. She learned to fill her time listening to her own thoughts, reading, planting in the garden, paying attention to the pets and dreamed of a happier life. She busily planned what it would look like. Getting lost in the alone, she found it beneficial to her own personal happiness. Finding no reason to share her happy thoughts because they belonged just to her. Too much was already taken from her. Her happiness came from what internally belonged to her. Her time!
There is a beneficial selfishness when it comes to personal happiness! No one is allowed to take that away from you! No one can force you not to have it! It is self-care! Quite honestly no one else can you make you happy. It has to be within you! No job, no dollar amount, no ring on your finger, no significant other, no marriage... It is all up to you to find what your soul craves to keep you subjectively happy and interesting. Learn a new interest! Take up hobbies! Read and do research! Learn to date yourself! Learn to care for your own needs! Love what you do... and you will see the happy that follows!
Happiness is an inside job. Start at the beginning make a list... look to see what puts a real smile on your face. Pay attention to the butterflies you get from being giddy. That is what real happiness is. It is the joy you learned to have because you allowed the happy in your life!
Too many people learn to settle for less than happy... because people and situations are there! Just because it's easy... doesn't make it happy! That is convenience! Learn the difference.
If it disrupts your peace... it is not where you are supposed to be! Happy is an inside job! Do it well!
Meet Me In St. Louis
Kitryn Marie
If you would like to learn more about all the things that truly make you happy, Life and Biz Coaching Sessions are available...
I have learned a long time ago happiness does not come from the co-dependence of your significant other or does happiness secure a place by a rock that sits on your finger! Happiness does not come from being glued to one's hip or being the sole source of entertainment to another. A person can not be expected to be a source of enlightenment all the time. It is draining and it will suck the life out of a person... where there will be nothing later to give. Happiness does not come from being bought or showered with gifts... those gifting moments should remain for special occasions creating happy memories. Celebrating happy moments! Happiness does not come from constantly shopping! ( For you shopaholics... it's a temporary fix to fill a void because your inner soul is empty and you feel shopping will nourish the empty: where in reality the high will fade from the purchase and you will feel worse after knowing the sticker shock! and the money wasted on stuff you did not need! )
Self-Happiness does promote a well being of contentment within oneself; liking your own company enough to where you don't need someone all the time at your side to prove happiness exist. To have separate interest.... an interest of your own that feeds your soul that feeling of purpose where you can be elated over something you have created, gave birth to or did on your own ... where you can later share your knowledge and engage in a meaningful conversation over such. It keeps you interesting!! Happiness comes from having a secure sense of self. To be secure with one's self is the most independent freest feeling there is!
Not having to be talking, listening to your own thoughts where no one is there to interject on your personal feeling and thoughts. (or asking you whats wrong because you just want to be quiet.) To read a book and get lost in moments between pages without having to explain... To take a walk and really look at the sights and listen to the sounds finding that inner peace that brings so much tranquility to your soul. "If it disrupts your peace, it is not where you need to be." there is too much of a cost losing your peace of mind. It is something that takes years to recover from. No one is allowed to steal your happy! NO ONE!!
Just as the only child needs to keep himself occupied or the child that has been left alone for too long... they find ways to keep busy by themselves because they have had no choice. It becomes second skin. They learned to find the happiness within oneself and the adult that becomes from those childhood moments has an extremely difficult time as an adult engaging and entertaining others on a day to day basis because alone was what they knew! The condurum as the adult... they equate alone with being happy! There is peace in the alone and where there is peace... there is happy!!!
This equation would also suit the family that had more than 5 siblings, There is always one that wants to get away from the masses to find themselves looking for their own happiness and identity separate from...what others associated them with! They craved the alone and once they achieved it... it was the happiest place on earth!
The woman that sat at home, waiting for the man that never came home when he was supposed to... she learned to be happy on her own. She learned to fill her time listening to her own thoughts, reading, planting in the garden, paying attention to the pets and dreamed of a happier life. She busily planned what it would look like. Getting lost in the alone, she found it beneficial to her own personal happiness. Finding no reason to share her happy thoughts because they belonged just to her. Too much was already taken from her. Her happiness came from what internally belonged to her. Her time!
There is a beneficial selfishness when it comes to personal happiness! No one is allowed to take that away from you! No one can force you not to have it! It is self-care! Quite honestly no one else can you make you happy. It has to be within you! No job, no dollar amount, no ring on your finger, no significant other, no marriage... It is all up to you to find what your soul craves to keep you subjectively happy and interesting. Learn a new interest! Take up hobbies! Read and do research! Learn to date yourself! Learn to care for your own needs! Love what you do... and you will see the happy that follows!
Happiness is an inside job. Start at the beginning make a list... look to see what puts a real smile on your face. Pay attention to the butterflies you get from being giddy. That is what real happiness is. It is the joy you learned to have because you allowed the happy in your life!
Too many people learn to settle for less than happy... because people and situations are there! Just because it's easy... doesn't make it happy! That is convenience! Learn the difference.
If it disrupts your peace... it is not where you are supposed to be! Happy is an inside job! Do it well!
Meet Me In St. Louis
Kitryn Marie
If you would like to learn more about all the things that truly make you happy, Life and Biz Coaching Sessions are available...
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