"YOU BECOME THE AVERAGE OF THE 5 PEOPLE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH!"
Today's view is not for the faint of heart. Up front, I will tell you, if anything I have written before does not make you think twice, then nothing will. It will prove you have not one ounce of etiquette or socially conscious. It is said that "you become the average of the five people you associate with." Those people that you most associate with influences your thoughts, behavior, and language. Where you have taken on specific behavior and certain traits have become your acceptable norm. (Please do not mistake this with political correctness. I am not making some liberal type statement here.)
If your words cannot be said to your mother, daughter, sister or banker, don't you dare make comments inappropriate to me or to anyone else that does not deserve respect in any conversation. If you have associated your life in dive ass taverns and or prisons and or the likes of uneducated degenerates that have absolutely no respect towards women and or mankind... do not bother to have a conversation with me and don't you dare try to flatter me with your cheesy off color compliment. I don't want to hear it, don't need it and I certainly do not want to see your lips moving saying it. It is not a turn on and in fact, it is the one thing that will guarantee there will be no going further in a direction and in any relationship. It is not funny nor do I appreciate it any factor!
As a woman who has worked in bars a very good portion of my life,(to make an income to support my children while learning another trade) The raunchy comments made to me and I have heard has been some of the most degrading and appalling words I've ever had to listen to. To make any comment in an exaggerated flirt about a part of a woman's anatomy is the lowest of comments any person can make, Even if in a relationship that is not a compliment...its disrespect. Disclaimer: if a woman is allowing her ass to hang out and or her cleavage hanging to her waist. That person is looking for people to talk and derogatory comments to be made. She is looking for the negative attention. She has been taught to "flaunt what your mama gave you" in order to make a dollar and get the negative attention (because attention is attention)and odds are she has never been taught self-worth either.
The mindset to what is sexy and appealing making a woman attractive is far from the above statement. Sex appeal comes from the way a woman carries herself, her intelligence! The way she moves and addresses the things that matter to her most through her words and actions! She should be complimented on such and her style, her mannerisms, her eyes and the way she lights up life... the way she can make a room burst into laughter or that simple smile that can make anyone melt into a puddle of mush.
For my 56 years, to show off a new size due to weight loss and a change in a healthy routine, I would expect positive remarks to be made. I am partial to certain clothing styles. I love things with sequins and sparkle, tye dye and off the shoulder. (I like to think I am a kindred spirit with that bohemian hippie chick, a somewhat freestyle thinker and independent) Black is always a favorite. A short skirt above the knee because I still can and on a rare occasion...and I mean rare, I will sport a hint of cleavage, and because of my shape, there may be more things accentuated. It is just how I am built! Hypersensitive, I am... for all the years, I heard, " why do you dress like that? Why do you want to look like that? Who are you trying to impress?" When the truth of the matter was he did not want anyone showing me an ounce of attention because it took away from him! I very much dressed appropriately. I never walked out of the house embarrassing a sole because my motto is and always has been, "image says so much about who you are as a person!" And even for all the years I worked behind the bar and waitressed on a floor, I NEVER looked the "bar type" never acted the "bar type" so why would anyone feel they have had the right to make any comments towards... unless that is all they know how to speak? "YOU BECOME THE AVERAGE OF THE 5 PEOPLE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH!" ( and I wonder in a most recent pic sent to me of my ex with his new whatever... did he question her on her appearance as her cleavage hung to her waist? but what the hell... a bar is a bar is a bar and talk is always cheap if that is all you know!"YOU BECOME THE AVERAGE OF THE 5 PEOPLE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH!" )
So before any words roll off your tongue, think before you spew what you might think as a compliment. Flattery does not get you anywhere, when the words heard are a turn-off. Yeah, I'm tough, I have a no tolerance for what some think as flattery and or a way to flirt. If you can't say it to your mother, daughter, sister or banker... don't you dare say it to me or any other woman!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
If your words cannot be said to your mother, daughter, sister or banker, don't you dare make comments inappropriate to me or to anyone else that does not deserve respect in any conversation. If you have associated your life in dive ass taverns and or prisons and or the likes of uneducated degenerates that have absolutely no respect towards women and or mankind... do not bother to have a conversation with me and don't you dare try to flatter me with your cheesy off color compliment. I don't want to hear it, don't need it and I certainly do not want to see your lips moving saying it. It is not a turn on and in fact, it is the one thing that will guarantee there will be no going further in a direction and in any relationship. It is not funny nor do I appreciate it any factor!
As a woman who has worked in bars a very good portion of my life,(to make an income to support my children while learning another trade) The raunchy comments made to me and I have heard has been some of the most degrading and appalling words I've ever had to listen to. To make any comment in an exaggerated flirt about a part of a woman's anatomy is the lowest of comments any person can make, Even if in a relationship that is not a compliment...its disrespect. Disclaimer: if a woman is allowing her ass to hang out and or her cleavage hanging to her waist. That person is looking for people to talk and derogatory comments to be made. She is looking for the negative attention. She has been taught to "flaunt what your mama gave you" in order to make a dollar and get the negative attention (because attention is attention)and odds are she has never been taught self-worth either.
The mindset to what is sexy and appealing making a woman attractive is far from the above statement. Sex appeal comes from the way a woman carries herself, her intelligence! The way she moves and addresses the things that matter to her most through her words and actions! She should be complimented on such and her style, her mannerisms, her eyes and the way she lights up life... the way she can make a room burst into laughter or that simple smile that can make anyone melt into a puddle of mush.
For my 56 years, to show off a new size due to weight loss and a change in a healthy routine, I would expect positive remarks to be made. I am partial to certain clothing styles. I love things with sequins and sparkle, tye dye and off the shoulder. (I like to think I am a kindred spirit with that bohemian hippie chick, a somewhat freestyle thinker and independent) Black is always a favorite. A short skirt above the knee because I still can and on a rare occasion...and I mean rare, I will sport a hint of cleavage, and because of my shape, there may be more things accentuated. It is just how I am built! Hypersensitive, I am... for all the years, I heard, " why do you dress like that? Why do you want to look like that? Who are you trying to impress?" When the truth of the matter was he did not want anyone showing me an ounce of attention because it took away from him! I very much dressed appropriately. I never walked out of the house embarrassing a sole because my motto is and always has been, "image says so much about who you are as a person!" And even for all the years I worked behind the bar and waitressed on a floor, I NEVER looked the "bar type" never acted the "bar type" so why would anyone feel they have had the right to make any comments towards... unless that is all they know how to speak? "YOU BECOME THE AVERAGE OF THE 5 PEOPLE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH!" ( and I wonder in a most recent pic sent to me of my ex with his new whatever... did he question her on her appearance as her cleavage hung to her waist? but what the hell... a bar is a bar is a bar and talk is always cheap if that is all you know!"YOU BECOME THE AVERAGE OF THE 5 PEOPLE YOU ASSOCIATE WITH!" )
So before any words roll off your tongue, think before you spew what you might think as a compliment. Flattery does not get you anywhere, when the words heard are a turn-off. Yeah, I'm tough, I have a no tolerance for what some think as flattery and or a way to flirt. If you can't say it to your mother, daughter, sister or banker... don't you dare say it to me or any other woman!
Meet Me In St. Louis,
Kitryn Marie
