Mr Bus Driver This Is My Stop
Mr bus driver this is my stop, please this is where I get off...
Are you familiar with that feeling? You want to scream "Stop and let me the hell off?" You look back at all those people on that "bus" and wonder, why in the hell are you on here? Zombified people aimlessly going along for a ride that goes in a circle after circle... THE ROUTE DOES NOT CHANGE! and they are so caught up thinking they are going somewhere... forgetting where their stop is! Mind-blowing... Stuck in this circumstance that says "well if you get on here it will take you there"... the problem is most don't know where there is!
"The wheels on the bus... go round and round...up and down" We have stopped and started so many times in our life that there is no real destination anymore... because no one realizes their continued pattern in the journey. Their whole life has been made up of stops and starts. There has been no call to the action. There has been no form of continuity... sticking to a plan because the plan starts and then stops and then falls way off a beaten path! Here lie A bunch of people in limbo thinking they are actually getting somewhere... believing if they get on right here... jump on that big transport that it automatically is going to let you off right where you need to be... never realizing if you are smart enough to know your stop... YOU STILL HAVE TO KEEP GOING TO GET "SOMEWHERE AND GET SOMETHING" DONE!
Are you familiar with that feeling? You want to scream "Stop and let me the hell off?" You look back at all those people on that "bus" and wonder, why in the hell are you on here? Zombified people aimlessly going along for a ride that goes in a circle after circle... THE ROUTE DOES NOT CHANGE! and they are so caught up thinking they are going somewhere... forgetting where their stop is! Mind-blowing... Stuck in this circumstance that says "well if you get on here it will take you there"... the problem is most don't know where there is!
"The wheels on the bus... go round and round...up and down" We have stopped and started so many times in our life that there is no real destination anymore... because no one realizes their continued pattern in the journey. Their whole life has been made up of stops and starts. There has been no call to the action. There has been no form of continuity... sticking to a plan because the plan starts and then stops and then falls way off a beaten path! Here lie A bunch of people in limbo thinking they are actually getting somewhere... believing if they get on right here... jump on that big transport that it automatically is going to let you off right where you need to be... never realizing if you are smart enough to know your stop... YOU STILL HAVE TO KEEP GOING TO GET "SOMEWHERE AND GET SOMETHING" DONE!
Do you get the picture? Where are you going? How many stops and starts does it take? How many do-overs? How many restarts? WHAT DO YOU WANT? WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR? Where is your stop?
Honeymoon phases do not last? Whats new becomes old... and worn out. Often times wearing out welcomes... because it no longer excites! You become bored! You have to work at it? It becomes hard... and if you are stuck, it becomes routine...
Ideas are had and given and become tryingly hard to implement. Wanting to stop and start over... thinking the next is going to be the best! Miles away, miles apart... buying time, buying space...staying in limbo and keeping whats what at arm's length fresh.
I will say this from my experience growing up in an abusive household and being in an abusive relationship, there is a difference between keeping arm's length for protection and arm's length so you don't have to attach. There is a horrifying fear of allowing anyone to get close to you. Then there is arm's length so you can control your stop and start behavior. Emotional avoidance (never attaching) is a bus ride that never has a stop off. It is the person who has been taught not to attach. The disappointments from being abandoned or never given adequate validation. Its the child who has been left, the person who has witnessed and suffered abuse. His needs neglected and the person who has learned the advantages and the disadvantages wanting it both ways. The addict trait of come here go away! The same recycled behavior... on a route going nowhere. Starting and stopping, with jobs, relationships and anything that requires them to stay put.
A bus stop on every corner...
Idyllic ideas become the norm never realizing what they have when they have it. They are always looking for the next best thing. The better option... something new! The person never takes accountability for their part in the start and stop actions. Quick to hop on that next bus...
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Disclosure: For the hater/the person who is reading this judging. There is a ginormous difference in evolving in personal growth. Changing from one job to another for the betterment of life. Gaining skills and clarity in a more purpose-filled life living out one's passion and aligning it with their life's mission. Knowing where skills are best suited... moving forward and awakening to the possibility towards abundance.
Also, a very large margin in realizing the poor choices one has made in past relationships coming to terms with the facts that no one ever has to suffer at the hand of someone else's addictions or abusive hands and should never have to lower themselves to a substandard of living... because that person can not grow in character.
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Too many people stay stuck on the bus... the stops and starts never knowing where they are going and how to really get there. First, you have to realize when enough is enough! A person needs to decide to get off the moving going nowhere disaster... you put feet on the ground and you dig in and you make written plans. Real concrete plans that one can live by and with. If coupled the plan has to be sought out together. Two people going in the same direction, same map and same time frame! Wanting the exact same thing! Constantly conversing and rereading the map and repetitively fine combing the plans. Throwing all bus tickets away...
You can not exclaim finally! when the behavior has demonstrated the same damn actions from the time before and the time before that and the time before that! To anybody that jumps into the arms of a person that has exampled an unreliable lifestyle... proof of leaving people high and dry after leading them on that moving bus. You are not the lucky one! You are a damn fool and you will be made an example of... you will be running along the side of that bus and you will be added to the ticket of stops! If you do not watch the speed and the way one's motives move.
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It was not easy to get to this place I am in. I have studied plenty over the last several years. Going over case studies, learning behavior modifications, practicing law of attraction, gaining insights through relationship statistics and watching repeated addictive patterns. I have learned so much through psychological traits and family dynamics. I took such the leap of faith knowing I could share my knowledge with people who are so lost riding a bus that never has a stop!
Mr bus driver this is my stop, please this is where I get off...
If you would like more information on How you too can get off this maddening start and stop cycle... please email me at kitrynmarie@gmail.com subject line "Life Coaching"
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Kitryn Marie
