Have You Learned The Lesson...Its 2025
It is Jan 1, 2025... Have we not learned the lesson yet?
To move in silence, why? What is to hide? What would one be doing that shouldn't be shared to show how life has worked on your behalf? What authentic image of you or the life you are portraying to be true isn't open/available for public viewing? Yes, of course, some situations need to remain private for the sanctity of the operation and we have learned hard the pitfalls of social media. Motives and awkward sentiments mostly do not go hand in hand. Especially for those who have struggled to remain not only autonomous but unscathed!
From a business point of view, it's the mechanics. How you have branded your identity that shows a glimpse of your real life that has spilled over for the public to not only enjoy but also applaud your growth in creativity/success! On a more personal note, why wouldn't you want the masses to invest in your happily ever after? Cheer you on! Everyone loves a good love story! Most with a genuine heart want to see the real and happy lived out on pages or posts so they can live vicariously through you with heartfelt sentiments. You being an example of how love and healthy relationships still exist in a replaceable throwaway world! Maybe you feel your life isn't "show" worthy. Maybe you are ashamed or feel the need to hide to protect images based on the stories you told to land you in that "position". Possibly it's because you have imposter syndrome and you can't live up to the hype you've made others believe; carrying out your role now comes with challenges you were not prepared for! and to display any version of it has no constancy, flow, or rhythm and it makes no sense. The all-over-the-board has no conscious afterthought and to show anything has a very discombobulated context on what you need to portray but knowing the trajectory of the story has no basis. (reread that last line)
From my stance, all of the above is what I teach in my Life Coaching and Business Coaching classes. Where do you, your job/position fit in this modern social media world? Where can you insert the real in order to attain/ obtain happiness and gain notoriety based on the life you live with no malice being authentic to your nature and cause.
For you, the above might mean something else. This I will say as a woman who has studied life coaching (what I call the human experiments) and who has lived life with raw emotions and out loud in expressions, where there has been no communication, words left to say, situations that have made no sense or puzzles that have big missing pieces; social media has been the catalyst in healing for many. As I explain to the women in my classes, Seeing things live or portrayed from a written post/photo shared gives validation to empty responses, and proves escaped accountability for those that caused harm, it also offers compassion and understanding; knowing someone else has gone through similar situations and the person posting is not alone in what they are going through. It is human nature to express and share stories both good and bad! (How you resonate with the stories is on you)
It is the non-suspecting culprit and the unassuming victim that typically gets caught up in "the words" associated with what they are going through and that they are viewing on open pages. It is the reflection of behavior that they do not want exposed(having them need to take a look at personal motives) or has gotten misconstrued in between the messages. {making the person reading think, are they writing about me} Humans of all walks share experiences with variants of character synchronicities ... Psychology codes, we all share a common denominator of how we came about and what has made us act. Where I discuss in class the "products of environment" Cause and effect; how we grew up and who were our role models that we mimicked because that was impressed upon us. The adaptations of needing to learn a set of coping skills as we grew! It became the foundation of who we are and what life we are trying to achieve!
It becomes harder and more difficult as we age because most have riddled through various relationships looking to be accepted and loved for their flaws(or self-inflicted wounds) that they have allowed to become the center of all of their choices! Instead of stepping up standards of measure to be better versions of themself, the exhausted emotional soul replaces individuals who give in to what it is the easiest so nothing has to change. This why we see people doing the same thing over and over and if it is shown on social media over a period of time it becomes the circus everyone wants to have front row to. The situation becomes comical or sad and the viewers love to laugh or cry. {its empathy to a situation they feel} It is the hierarchy of a tale of tragedy or a tale of comedy. In each scenario, there is a story that has unfolded through experiences that happened which became the result of...
I depict a lot of my story characters on how people in real life have behaved. As I speak in class, when a person's life has been lived in a public realm on display; parading around in foolery, it is unrealistic to see them pretending that that life didn't exist, so therefore if that person believes, if "I am not on social media it will go away." Especially when so many individuals were affected by the characters' bad influences, low self-esteem, mockery and deceptive ways; as they were trying to get ahead at someone else expense. Sadly people get hurt and in one situation that I was made very aware of people lose lives. It is a consequence of choice through a series of events that went bad because someone could not control a temper and an urge. The shame and guilt that accompanies those actions are hard to live with so if disguised as the victim it portrays the unwillingness to be accountable for what transpired... in real time.
What is pathetic about this nature is this is actually is how a variety of people exist in their everyday lives. It is the human condition to the surroundings they succumb to. It is everybody else's fault so there does not have to be responsibility for the actions that get the ball rolling in chaos, drama which results in trauma. It is a repetitive pattern in poor choices because the person has lost control... over self. Sporadic and impetuous moves temporarily mask the emotional turmoil. If "I do this quick" no one will know and I will carry on... til I can't but in the meanwhile, I will manipulate the situation to work in my favor to gain what "I need" because somehow "I have to benefit from the supply" that will allow me to remain INCOGNITO!
It took years of studying to learn and understand ... the healing process that comes after being in contact with these individuals takes a very long time. I have come to know and I teach this loudly, " I am not responsible for your feelings. You though, are responsible for your actions and how they affected my life" It is not my job to give you the tools to fix your demise and you can not get upset for my reaction to your abuse"
Because someone lacks the awareness of their own behavior, it does not mean you should tolerate it either. Second-skin ignorance is usually how most people keep their masks on. If they can't understand your motives or power (from learning and being highly educated in subjects and on topics) they use it against you.
Everyone loves a good human conditioning story that makes them feel good about their life! We love happy endings that inspire and educate us to think outside of ourselves... Empathy is a wonderful attribute to have when selfishness can be removed from ego and a person actually feels what they have done to someone else.
So as you use social media this year... whether it be for personal or business use; understand the HUMAN EXPERIMENT and the conditions that come from what you are trying to convey through your post and photos. There are messages and lessons many still need to learn!
To schedule the Life Coaching Class 65.00 through putting a Vision Board together or a Business Coaching Class 95.00 reach out kitryn_marie@yahoo.com
It is a brand new year! Happy New Year... 2025
Kitryn Marie
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