Why, It's Business...Or Is It?

 

Don't you hate it when people say, "its business" don't take it personally? Doesn't it get under your skin when the people that should be the closest to you or should be the most loyal to your relationship, goes behind your back, spreads lies and hires (or uses someone else's service) from someone that has done you so wrong! Don't you get so frustrated when people see what you do and what you have to offer, making small niceties in a general conversation to your face but never buy or share anything that you do? (via social media or in-person conversations with others) Oh Yes, it goes against a person's grain and it happens all the time! In all of our lives, some just hide their actions better than others.

How many times have you had a person you know that could use some part of a service that you do but for what ever reason truly if there is not something in it for them (a gain of sorts) or if they see the attention is given more on to you than what they do... they will go out of their way to poo poo who you are. At your expense, they will see to it that who you are or what your value is or does, never makes it into the correct circles. They have been so busy trying to make a name for themselves they throw dirt on yours. Trust me this happens... more than you know!

People who try to get ahead, by trying to manipulate, befriend, become fren-enemies just to be able to know the skinny, censor your ability so they can take advantage for themself and reap some benefit so they have one up on you, toppling over your feelings... because ya know its business! It's a dog-eat-dog world and we all are trying to make a living! And it's pathetically sad that there are so many out there like this.

I think over the last 8 years I have seen the true colors of so many. Although I have had my share of "personal" experiences and have been trampled over by the lack of disrespect through a very close circle, it only made my desire stronger to become a life and a business coach. I have seen and heard from so many where their voices not heard, a dream not able to achieve and the rude laughter from those that can not fight their way out of a wet paper bag. Those that have been used for another's well-being not even to think about what they have done to that person's psyche, leaving them scrambling to find a steady ground to stand. Their feelings just crushed.

I had one woman so distraught over her husband's lack of understanding what she needed to do in order for her to feel accomplished and complete, to another that was staying in a job she hated because her husband insisted it was for their benefit when in actuality it only served him... her paycheck. I had another girl who "had" a best friend that every time she needed a certain tradesman for her business, she would hire her ex who had abused her terribly. When the same responses resounded the same! It came down to "awe hon, don't take it personally. It is business!"

As I have said to numerous types, a person gets very tired and although a lot has been put up with, we all get to appoint where that type of behavior is not acceptable in any way or fashion and if "those" would not want it done to them... REVERSE THE ROLE! The once kind and forgiving snaps and a side of that individual rears that no one can understand how their actions played a very big role in this person's new behavior. 

I have seen people ghosted and I have seen the ghosted ...ghost. What comes around goes around. It is not an eye for an eye but now a "well how do you like it?"

I have seen so many people who once ran in large crowds now keeping life's activities to themself. A circle so small no one is allowed in. There just seems to be no reason for that type of camaraderie. I have seen women cover for their best friends' illicit affairs and when the quiet one no longer would approve of their promiscuity ... the cheating friend flipped the table, becoming vile and narcissistic. "How dare you not approve. I deserve to be happy!" Yes, we all deserve to be happy but not at the expense of destroying vitality. We all deserve to be loved but more than often too many hurting people who are desperate to find healing take on behaviors that are destructing. Then to place blame on someone (who kept secrets and sincerely cared) else for not approving... is selfishness in the worst way. 

So it seems people who lack "something" people who have these "holes" of doubt, insecurities, lack of confidence trying to be something they are not, seeking approval or trying to gain notoriety gaining the wrong attention just so they can feel better about themselves, trying to fill a void... hurting other people terribly. Having the audacity to call it business when it is and has been nothing but personal!

What I choose to call business and what I choose to call personal should never destroy someone else's feelings, ideas, identity, ability to thrive, function and maintain healthy relationships or lifestyles. It took 2 years of studying for this to sink in. What I should have known as second skin! very much became my reasoning behind living my life with purpose and teaching/coaching so many; that has yet to discover... how some are only in it for themselves and it is ok to walk away, shut it out... and go on with life as if these types never existed, to begin with.

If you would like to learn more about my business coaching or even life coaching to help you see another side to what life could look like, please email kitrynmarie@gmail.com. You may visit http://kitryn-marie.weebly.com to see all of the classes I offer and or any of the merchandise I produce.

Be Happy Be Blessed,

Kitryn Marie