You Are Of Value
In times like these!
I just got off the phone with my oldest, who questions his talents, acquisitions and accomplishments, certifications, awards, his service to a medical community and his resilient strength and faith to his God! (the almighty one!) My oldest who looks like something out of a GQ magazine says in this shaking time on our earth, " Mom have I done enough?" Now of course as any good mother would say or do... I get on my soapbox and start yelling, calling out and naming every one of his accomplishments! I have to yell so he will not interrupt. I have to speak loudly and adamantly because that's what Italian moms do! I have to speak over him...drowning out and squashing his need to second guess "what else could I have done?"
We do at the time, what we think we have to do in order to "get by" We create our lives based on what someone else feels we need to do for them! Then when the expectation does not meet the standard that someone else has put on us, we question our worth and seek out validation from the craziest sources seeking out answers that we will never get because those "other people" who have imposed their unhealthy way of living, never will be accountable or responsible for their own short-comings so, therefore, they place blame on those they claim "who do not do enough"
Hello, have we met? Does this scenario sound familiar? Anyone Anyone... Ferris...Ferris!
The issue with those of us who are constantly striving for more is that we keep this expectation of what our life is supposed to look like. When trying to maintain that standard and it can not be met by others; we are looked at as being "too good, better than thou, head in the clouds, living on candy cane lane...or told, oh us girls" (or in my son's case, guy) Often the validation that we need to hear for completing such task is impossible to obtain from the person who has set no standard and they have no expectations for their life because they expect someone else to carry them through life while they skirt around all issues. Its easier to learn how to manipulate someone else instead of learning how to carry their own dead weight! The pathological liar will spin that web to get the attention they need, soaking up their source of energy, to obtain what they need for a personal gain, draining the existence and the life emotionally, mentally, physically and financially from the person who they have made to believe "NOT WORTHY"
And as the accuse' is spewing, "you did not do enough", they are high-tailing off with someone else escaping all reasonable communication for closure. It is so damn easy to place blame on someone else so the truth never surfaces.! They just keep changing out their sources(partners) getting their fixes met never caring about the standards or expectations the other has set for their life! {if you could hear me scream right now!}
Like son, like mother! I have taught him always set your standard of life high so you can be happy with it because you have created it! No one can take away your accomplishments! No one can take away your smart! No one can take away your idea of living that higher expectations! Rome was not built in a day. It takes time to develop what you are good at. It is with trial and error we learn where we accel in this life. How dare someone throw it in anybody's face..."well you are not doing enough to appease my life."
First hand for 8 years, I lived with a situation, with someone in a romantic relationship, where I was told I didn't work enough. I didn't have a career. I thought I was too good. I didn't do enough to contribute to him or his daughters. I had no skills, I had nothing marketable. etc etc etc... Then after it all ended (while parading women around that circulated in his revolving bedroom door) I was still surviving, making money to provide and studying to create a business, all the while, I was being harassed because I now was "a girl so into herself" When he met me, I was in foodservice and doing art and taking care of my own kids and pets and home! Affording the lifestyle I wanted because my expectations and standards had more to do with being at home and providing a stable life. It just so happened my choice to continue to study had to do with what I had started with in college and because the way the 2008 crash affected everyone, I took it upon my self to continue elevating my standard of living even though the world had bottomed out:
1. out of boredom cause life wasn't enough I needed more mental stimulation!
2. I am that smart and really wanted to learn the effects of sociology and psychological conditioning
3. it was just time to learn something new! EVOLVE AND AWAKEN
People who choose to stay stuck in old routines keeping the same habits continue with unhealthy patterns. They refuse to change a mindset, guilty by associations, pal-ing around with undesirables; the comforts of low vibrational existences because they have no modality for a better way of living. They just exist! {Shooting your mouth off to a bunch of alcoholic buddies who are happy living in a nothing condition so a person can feel better about their life... has no standard for their life. They just have accepted the nothing they live in! It is simple and its easy and they hope and pray it is just going to be ok for anyone else... because they do not want to change. That would require real work!
I look to all of my kids and can get rather preachy! It comes down to pride because we have earned it on our own. Scraping every dollar we have to make so it works best for the situation at hand! It is about responsibilities to self and being accountable for the family we now all have! You don't take money out to play if there is none! Especially now under these current times and being quarantined at home, you really get to look and see how much money and time has been wasted on entities and people who do not add up to a hill of beans!
The 4 walls that preside to make a home... is based and built on ingenuity and trust supporting each other emotionally and supporting each on faith knowing this time is a time to reflect and see what home is truly built on and the marketable skills with oneself providing reassurance YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH!
So as I ended my conversation with my child this morning, I told him, " it is time to start looking face value at what that other person has done, that karma will come back... and karmic cycles are a MF'r. they haunt for lifetimes!" Continuing with telling him "it is where he wants to see himself, outside of that situation, standing on HIS TRUTH AND VALIDATIONS seeing what no longer serves and understanding how fate will intervene for all truths!" (poor behavior always says more about the other person's reflections of self and has to do within their own personal conflicts and struggles. Healthy people do not destroy other people's lives for the fun of it. It is the true work of a Narcissist)
My best clients, customers and followers have been my children. I am no DR but I am MOM and mother always knows what's best!
If you would like to learn more about my coaching classes for life and business please visit http://kitryn-marie.weebly.com I will be coaching online using ZOOM as my platform. Please send all inquiries to kitrynmarie@gmail.com
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
I just got off the phone with my oldest, who questions his talents, acquisitions and accomplishments, certifications, awards, his service to a medical community and his resilient strength and faith to his God! (the almighty one!) My oldest who looks like something out of a GQ magazine says in this shaking time on our earth, " Mom have I done enough?" Now of course as any good mother would say or do... I get on my soapbox and start yelling, calling out and naming every one of his accomplishments! I have to yell so he will not interrupt. I have to speak loudly and adamantly because that's what Italian moms do! I have to speak over him...drowning out and squashing his need to second guess "what else could I have done?"
We do at the time, what we think we have to do in order to "get by" We create our lives based on what someone else feels we need to do for them! Then when the expectation does not meet the standard that someone else has put on us, we question our worth and seek out validation from the craziest sources seeking out answers that we will never get because those "other people" who have imposed their unhealthy way of living, never will be accountable or responsible for their own short-comings so, therefore, they place blame on those they claim "who do not do enough"
Hello, have we met? Does this scenario sound familiar? Anyone Anyone... Ferris...Ferris!
The issue with those of us who are constantly striving for more is that we keep this expectation of what our life is supposed to look like. When trying to maintain that standard and it can not be met by others; we are looked at as being "too good, better than thou, head in the clouds, living on candy cane lane...or told, oh us girls" (or in my son's case, guy) Often the validation that we need to hear for completing such task is impossible to obtain from the person who has set no standard and they have no expectations for their life because they expect someone else to carry them through life while they skirt around all issues. Its easier to learn how to manipulate someone else instead of learning how to carry their own dead weight! The pathological liar will spin that web to get the attention they need, soaking up their source of energy, to obtain what they need for a personal gain, draining the existence and the life emotionally, mentally, physically and financially from the person who they have made to believe "NOT WORTHY"
And as the accuse' is spewing, "you did not do enough", they are high-tailing off with someone else escaping all reasonable communication for closure. It is so damn easy to place blame on someone else so the truth never surfaces.! They just keep changing out their sources(partners) getting their fixes met never caring about the standards or expectations the other has set for their life! {if you could hear me scream right now!}
Like son, like mother! I have taught him always set your standard of life high so you can be happy with it because you have created it! No one can take away your accomplishments! No one can take away your smart! No one can take away your idea of living that higher expectations! Rome was not built in a day. It takes time to develop what you are good at. It is with trial and error we learn where we accel in this life. How dare someone throw it in anybody's face..."well you are not doing enough to appease my life."
First hand for 8 years, I lived with a situation, with someone in a romantic relationship, where I was told I didn't work enough. I didn't have a career. I thought I was too good. I didn't do enough to contribute to him or his daughters. I had no skills, I had nothing marketable. etc etc etc... Then after it all ended (while parading women around that circulated in his revolving bedroom door) I was still surviving, making money to provide and studying to create a business, all the while, I was being harassed because I now was "a girl so into herself" When he met me, I was in foodservice and doing art and taking care of my own kids and pets and home! Affording the lifestyle I wanted because my expectations and standards had more to do with being at home and providing a stable life. It just so happened my choice to continue to study had to do with what I had started with in college and because the way the 2008 crash affected everyone, I took it upon my self to continue elevating my standard of living even though the world had bottomed out:
1. out of boredom cause life wasn't enough I needed more mental stimulation!
2. I am that smart and really wanted to learn the effects of sociology and psychological conditioning
3. it was just time to learn something new! EVOLVE AND AWAKEN
People who choose to stay stuck in old routines keeping the same habits continue with unhealthy patterns. They refuse to change a mindset, guilty by associations, pal-ing around with undesirables; the comforts of low vibrational existences because they have no modality for a better way of living. They just exist! {Shooting your mouth off to a bunch of alcoholic buddies who are happy living in a nothing condition so a person can feel better about their life... has no standard for their life. They just have accepted the nothing they live in! It is simple and its easy and they hope and pray it is just going to be ok for anyone else... because they do not want to change. That would require real work!
I look to all of my kids and can get rather preachy! It comes down to pride because we have earned it on our own. Scraping every dollar we have to make so it works best for the situation at hand! It is about responsibilities to self and being accountable for the family we now all have! You don't take money out to play if there is none! Especially now under these current times and being quarantined at home, you really get to look and see how much money and time has been wasted on entities and people who do not add up to a hill of beans!
The 4 walls that preside to make a home... is based and built on ingenuity and trust supporting each other emotionally and supporting each on faith knowing this time is a time to reflect and see what home is truly built on and the marketable skills with oneself providing reassurance YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH!
So as I ended my conversation with my child this morning, I told him, " it is time to start looking face value at what that other person has done, that karma will come back... and karmic cycles are a MF'r. they haunt for lifetimes!" Continuing with telling him "it is where he wants to see himself, outside of that situation, standing on HIS TRUTH AND VALIDATIONS seeing what no longer serves and understanding how fate will intervene for all truths!" (poor behavior always says more about the other person's reflections of self and has to do within their own personal conflicts and struggles. Healthy people do not destroy other people's lives for the fun of it. It is the true work of a Narcissist)
My best clients, customers and followers have been my children. I am no DR but I am MOM and mother always knows what's best!
If you would like to learn more about my coaching classes for life and business please visit http://kitryn-marie.weebly.com I will be coaching online using ZOOM as my platform. Please send all inquiries to kitrynmarie@gmail.com
Be Happy Be Blessed,
Kitryn Marie
Yes, imagine all the wonderful things that could have been written. If people wanted to be spoken highly about they should have behaved better!
